My just-fourteen year old dd has recently had an allowance - we pay her in cash at the start of each month.
We budgeted WITH her - good to have their input - and agreed that it would cover school bus / lunches / entertainment / friend's birthdays / going-out clothes. This comes to £80 a month in term time and will be adjusted accordingly with school hols etc.
We pay for her phone (minimal use).
If this continues to go well, we will open a bank account for her and pay in monies by direct debit.
Could I ask if your teens do anything to earn their pocket money?
I don't mean to sound harsh, but I am genuinely interested, and wondering what I will do when my first child (who is not due until July!) reaches the age where his/her peers start to get pocket money.
I'm 28 and never got pocket money from my parents. When I was young, my Gran would give us grandkids 25p a week to to go to the corner shop and buy sweets (although it wasn't very official - if you weren't in the right place at the right time then you didn't get it!) and my Nan gave me a pound every other weekend that I thought was loads of money.
Although my Mum was a single parent and had very little money, I never felt like I went without by not getting pocket money - if I went to the pictures with my friends (which I wasn't allowed to do until I was 14 or 15) then she gave me the exact money plus something for popcorn, and similarly if we went to a fair or market then I'd get a few quid to spend. I wasn't allowed to go out to clubs or anywhere that might involve underage drinking, but I could stay over at friends / have them over at mine as long as my Mum knew them. If I wanted something clothes-wise then I pointed it out to my Mum and if she thought I needed it and she could afford it then she'd buy it. I only really felt the need to have money when I got to college and wanted to change ... well, all my clothes. So I got a job.
I had a bank account but was not aloud to take any money out of it until I was 16. However, if I received money for Christmas / birthdays then I was allowed to decide what I put into the account - and had a little bank book that my Mum encouraged me to keep updated so I could see how much I'd saved.
Not sure my situation is typical, but would say that it really helped me see the value of money in later life, and I think that at university I was better at managing my money than my peers who got allowances because any money I had was money that came from a part-time job.
So .. my current thinking is that I will give my children a small allowance so that they can learn how to manage their money, but make sure they do something in return (i.e. filling / emptying the dishwasher, keeping their rooms tidy and doing their homework). I'd also like to do the same thing with their bank account as my Mum did with me so that they can learn how to keep savings.
The £13 a month is a basic rate, but he is expected to do chores anyway: change his own sheets, cook once a week, empty the dishwasher at weekends etc.
If he mows the lawn or washes the car, we pay him £1. We also recently paid him to serve food and clear up at a large party with 100 guests. He has also earned money for cleaning, pet-feeding and shredding documents for neighbours and friends.
Elderberry Ellen MacArthur describes a childhood like you describe, remember she nicked apples for lunch because her dinner money was literally the only money that ever came into her hands, and all of her friends were the same, no one had pocket money. MacArthur is 37.
There have been heated arguments (No! who would have thought!?) on MN about whether to tie pocket money to chores. I run a combined system.
I had an allowance in the weekly 1970s, so it seems natural to me. If I adjusted what I was paid for inflation, it was a lot more than DC pocket money now. Like DC it wasn't tied to chores. DC can earn extra by doing chores, that's why their pocket money perhaps seems low compared to most others.
DC rarely choose to earn money by doing chores. Their choice. they obviously already have more than enough money for what they want. This thread is good for reminding me why they shouldn't have a rise any time.
I have never linked chores to pocket money as I feel chores are part of being a family. I don't get paid for them. Having said that I was made to do far more than others when I was 12+ and I resented it. I had to do hoovering, dusting and cook a meal every day after school, plus all my own laundry. My mother was always either at work or "out". As a result I probably ask too little of my teens, but they do willingly do whatever I ask. I do pay for extra jobs which are not part of every day life such as painting the fence.
I don't link pocket money to chores either, for similar reasons to everyone else. DS2 (13) does his own washing, lays/clears the table and load/unload the dishwasher with his brother, makes his own breakfasts and lunches (I do tea). He's expected to co-operate if I ask him to something else like vac, but I don't do it often. I occasionally ask him to make our evening meal, but it's important to me that this is a pleasant relaxed family meal, so if the boys don't want to do it, I don't generally push the point.
I did have a phase when I tied DS1's (17) allowance to chores, but it didn't work well: it that meant he resisted and resented every little thing I asked him to do, and went weeks without his allowance rather than do what he was 'supposed' to do. Now he does the same as DS2 willingly, and he will fairly often ask me to do extra chores for extra money, and I may or may not say yes, depending on what needs doing. At 17, I generally think it's good for him to work for his cash... But I'd like him to get a weekend job, so I deliberately keep my 'going rate' low to encourage him to look though it hasn't worked yet !
We dont tie pocket money/allowance to chores for the same reasons as others. Doing stuff is part of being a family.
DDs (17 & 13) both get an allowance which covers pocket money and clothes. This is paid monthly direct into their bank accounts. DS (14) is still paid weekly pocket money as he quite simply could not be trusted not to fritter the lot on toys/xbox games and dress in rags. As it is he has to get permission from us to spend his pocket money.
I think that by not linking pocket money to chores it is far easier to make the chores non-negotiable. However this does assume that there is essential domestic harmony in place.
Chores may need constant reminders (if my 14 year old DS is anything to go by) but once agreed we do find that it all runs fairly smoothly and there is no real kick back on actually doing them.
My DCs dont have a lot of chores to do. Dishwasher helps with that. It is accepted that DH or I will cook family meals but DCs clear away. It helps that DD1 likes cooking so she routinely cooks mid-week evening meals for DCs (they eat earlier than DH & I mid week).
DD1 is also a clean freak so routinely nags the other 2 to assist her in cleaning their bathroom to her own exacting standards. I sometimes wonder if I should be hiring her out!