Hi there I'm new to the forum and I'm so glad I've found this. I'm a single parent of two teens a girl aged 16 and a boy aged 13. I'm struggling at the mo,I have a chronic illness called fibromyalgia(constant pain,fatigue,anxiety). In general my kids have been pretty good but I'm feeling so resentful of all the noise and the mood swings. I pick up on everything which is very tiring,hard to explain buti am hypersensitive. For the last year I've had a constant battle with my son and the Xbox. People think its funny but it really isn't. His constant shouting and hollering affects the whole house. I understand its a very social thing for him as he can talk to his mates online and at least I know where he is. But my nerves are shot to pieces. I've limited his time on there to save my sanity but he is constantly pushing the boundaries as he knows I give in fairly easily as arguing stresses me out so much. I'm not a wimp,I think it's just the constant battle. My daughter is also showing a change in personality,she spends all her time in the lounge on her laptop and I feel so excluded from their lives,like I'm not needed anymore,just there to cook and clean their clothes. I expect just about every parent feels like this with teens and I know my two aren't by any means the worst. My problem is my illness,I don't go on about it but they both know I struggle. I am starting to spread my own wings,I've started a counselling course which has been hard but I'm hoping to one day have a career again as I had to give up my old career when I got unwell. I'm also planning to make my dining room into a special room for me so I don't get affected by the noise and by being ignored,I sound like a big kid don't I? But it really affects me and I don't want to get Into a bad relationship with my two. My mum threw me out when I was 18 and I don't want to end up like that,it was awful. I also remember what I was like at that age and it scares me witless. I have no contact with their dad but they do see him every two weekends and they are with him for a week now so I'm enjoying have a rest from being mum. Does anyone get where I'm coming from?
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