Hi everyone. This is the first time I have been on Mumsnet and I am hoping someone will be able to offer me some hope. My older child was expelled from school for poor behaviour and although he did go on to attend college and do one year of sports training (which he passed) he has not worked since (for 14 months). He spends his benefits on the first day he has them and can be very aggressive when drunk.
My younger teenager is very bright but has got behind in school after having an illness last year which resulted in her missing half of the year. She also has some psychological issues dating back to an issue in her childhood for which she has received counselling. She has got in with people who have no aspirations for the future and who last year started a fight involving another girl which resulted in all of them getting into trouble with the courts. She often refuses to go to school and is becoming more and more nasty with me on a daily basis. She claims that she is ill but I know that sometimes she is not. I have tried everything from financial encouragement to threats and removing all privileges but still nothing changes. She just calls me names and says she hates me and still refuses to go in. The school simply blame me and tell me they will take me to court if her attendance does not improve.
Although I am still married to their dad, he works away from Sunday night to Friday as a driver and I am left to cope with everything - including parents' evenings, non-attendance at school, getting my son to Workfare and the JobCentre on my own, despite working full-time in a job which I do not like but which I need to pay the bills.
I feel a complete failure as a mum and am fed up of getting abuse from everyone and being expected to sort out everything and deal with everyone's problems.
I have found myself detesting my own children and just wanting to move out and live on my own. I do not know what else to try - while some of my friends have had the odd problem with their teenagers, none of them have experienced anything like this and I do not know where to turn. At least all of their children have done sufficiently well at school to go on to jobs or further education. I despair of what the future holds for mine. I really feel like a failure.
Does anyone have any advice at all to offer?
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ColBooth60 · 13/11/2012 18:21
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