As you may or may not know my husband bailed out of our marriage just over a week ago. It is hell (but that is another story). Dd is 15, he is not her Dad, but he is the only male parental role model she has ever had. They were very close although never kissy/cuddly IYSWIM.
I told dd almost immediately partly because of the state I was in (she would not have been able to miss the fact that something had happened) and partly because I believe in being appropriately straight with my children.
( Ds (5) has not as yet been told as husband and I have agreed to what to say and then husband has decided it's not what he wants to say... )
Anyway, dd has a lot on her plate; my mum is terminally ill, she is in her final GCSE year and not doing well, her best friend has become completely besotted by her and it's got rather worrying particularly as he is very needy (he takes drugs, never goes to school), her actual Dad has been charged with a serious violent offence and recently told her he is going to cut his throat because dd doesn't talk deep and meaningfully with him (why would she he chose not to have a relationship with her for 12 years?) & he has been telling her it doesn't matter how she does in school it's her choice and now this. She is worrying about me and her brother and has very, very mixed feelings about stepdad right now. I think it is the last straw and she seems on the edge. Last night she just broke down and curled up on my lap and cried like a baby. I feel awful as I cannot make any of these problems go away for her.
I have spoken to her head of year and dd is being extremely disruptive in school , walking out of lessons, bursting into tears, generally being a 'drama queen' and I have agreed to meet the head of year with dd and there has been a suggestion that she is put on 'daily report' & the head of year has recommended that I stop her seeing said best friend!
How do I get my daughter back on track? Any ideas, experiences?
Until a few months ago we had a wonderful relationship but in the past few months we have just been at loggerheads. She was always so together and now she is falling apart
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