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Tortington · 18/10/2005 23:33

now to most parents on non teenagers and even a few who are your going to think this next post is rather insane however.

my 15 year old ( soon to be 16 next month) has been causing me worry since he was about mid 14. he goes out - gets stoned - gets grounded for a month. and i stick to it.

well, i dont want to speak toooooo soon , but i think maybe we have turned a corner - there maybe more to come but at the mo am rather extatic.

yes my son has been off his grounding since thursday - - usually he goes out, gets stoned gets grounded for another month. its even become a joke between us as he knows himself hes being stupid.

so he stays in thursday with a grin admitting hes waiting for saturday - to at least get a full day out - before getting grounded again. he stay in friday, not even allowing himself to be put infront of stoner friends and the temptation.

he goes out saturday back in before his due time. sober and drug free.

now this is a major thing as this hasn't happened for a year. i cant tell you how big it is = its like first steps first words big.

he went out sunday, monday and tuesday without incident -c ame home on time sober and drug free.

he tells me he's changed his friends. he wants to stay out and realised that he cant do it around his stoner mates becuase he will give in.

this includes his bestest mate on the street.

and for rational decision making, finally. i am very proud.

for those mums who have been through something similar - you will know what i mean.


thanks for reading

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LadyBerryofStrawStreet · 18/10/2005 23:38

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suedonim · 19/10/2005 00:31

Good result, Custy! I think you just have to keep plugging away and hope that the message gets through eventually. I do reckon that for the most part, if you've instilled good principles over the years then, deep down, your children know the difference between right and wrong and will come through okay.

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PollyLogos · 19/10/2005 05:37

You're the best!!

To my mind the most positive thing about what you have written, is that he decided to change his ways. IME all the nagging in the world won't change someone, (especially stroppy teenagers) unless they decide to change themselves.

I think you should write a book.....Your common sense approach is the way to go.

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Blandmum · 19/10/2005 06:37

this is bloody excellent!

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Tortington · 19/10/2005 17:09

well thank you very much. xxxxxxxx

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PottytheVampireSlayer · 19/10/2005 18:10

Well done Custy.....for staying sane and retaining a sense of humour and to your ds for finally seeing the light

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winnie · 19/10/2005 18:23

brilliant news Custy...

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tallulah · 19/10/2005 18:27

great news Custy!

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hellsbellsdownunder · 19/10/2005 19:03

wow - what a fantastic mum you are!!! I know I'd be hopeless in a similar situation.

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Mum2girls · 19/10/2005 19:07

Take me hat off to you.

Will be CAT'ing you for advice in a few years.

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Berries · 19/10/2005 19:34

Fantastic - make sure you're still here in 6 yrs time when I am sure dd2 will be doing the same thing!

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PuffMeHearties · 19/10/2005 19:36

SmileSmile

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ScummyMummy · 19/10/2005 19:39

SUPERB!!!!!!!!

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