14yo dd decided on Monday that she would start painting the hallway, while I was at work.
I came home to find a section of wall nicely painted, no marks on carpet, brushes cleaned.
I was shocked, but pleased.
I said it was OK to carry on. I did mention that the paint could ruin the carpet if she spilt any and didn't clean it off straightaway.
So, I came home from work on Tuesday to find she had painted another section of wall. This time the paint pot (a big 10 litre one) was left open on the floor, and the roller was left with the paint drying on it on a dust sheet.
I asked her to clean up. She started to then said her friend had called and needed to speak to dd for advice. She said she would clean up after. I said OK.
One hour later I find her texting on phone. By this time I had put paint away and left roller in sink (in case ds decides to trip over it).
She says well you can finish cleaning roller now, since you started it. I corrected her, quite politely. Reminding her that she was the one who took this on.
I said that she perhaps should stick to just taking off the wallpaper from now on.
Came home today to find her & friend had continued with painting and also found magnolia paint splotches all down the (burgundy) stairs carpet. DD was in shower because she was covered in paint.
So I came in, got changed and started to scrub the carpet myself. I know in other circumstances I would have made her do it, but I feel like I can't rely on her to do it properly.
Anyway, (sorry about length of this). I have mixed feelings about this. She was obviously trying to help, so I feel I need to recognise that. But she just doesn't seem to understand that she can't get paint everywhere. She doesn't see the impact this has.
It's like she'll do the bit she wants to do, and that's it.
Does anybody have any thoughts?
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MisterKatz · 18/08/2010 19:08
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