20 yr old daughter dressing inappropriately

[phoenix09]

My daughter does not live at home now but I have a problem with the way she dresses.
She wears low cut tops exposing alot of breast and wears very short skirts that leave very little to the imagination.....

I am not a prude, but have tried to explain to her as she was growing up that dressing in this manner could attract unwanted attention and sends out bad signals. I really am ashamed that she chooses to dress like this especially on family occasions. I know it is none of my business as she is 20.

I see many of the males in my family not knowing where to look...
She has had a boyfriend now for quite a while but still continues to dress in the same manner. I had hoped that he may have asked her to dress without attracting so much attention.... Any ideas anyone???

[innocuousnamechange]

'I am not a prude'
I beg to differ

[scurryfunge]

It is up to her how to dress.

It is men's responsibility to not to "react".

[CerealOffender]

arf @ this

[Lavitabellissima]

I think this is pretty normal at 20 tbh but I think I would have a quiet word if she is doing this at family events

Maybe buy here a style guide, most of them do say it's fine to either get your legs out/boobs out but not both at the same time as it's slutty looking

Good luck though, I didn't listen to what my mum said, when I was 20, and I wore some shocking outfits!

[moaningminniewhingesagain]

I'm sorry but she is 20. And she doesn't live with you. It is her business how she dresses.

I would be most worried if she did change how she dresses because a boyfriend told her to.

[CerealOffender]

maybe you could commit her to a nunnery. that'll learn her

[belledechocolatefluffybunny]

Just tell her it's best to show one or the other, clevage or leg, never both as it's cheap and tacky. She will learn as she gets older, think back to when you were this age.

[MollysChambers]

She's 20. She can wear what she likes.

[ShinyAndNew]

'I had hoped that he may have asked her to dress without attracting so much attention.... Any ideas anyone???' I sincerely hope that if either of my daughters meet a man who would ask his they run as fast as they can in the opposite direction

Other than that I agree with every one else. She is an adult now. It's her choice how she dresses. If the men of your family cannot handle that, that is their problem, not hers.

[mumeeee]

My 20 year old wears skirts that I think are way to short but I wouldn't tell her what to wear. I may be would ask your DD to tone down her dress for family occasions and then just leave her to it.

[SirBoobAlot]

Not much you can do about it, to be honest. Maybe tell her that Aunt X / her Grandad is a bit offended by what she is wearing, and could she maybe put on a pair of jeans just for the event? Yes I know its a pain, and its stupid, but just to shut the family up... Boobs or legs out, never both.

I'm 19, and I seriously, seriously judge other people my age wearing similar clothes. I think they look ridiculous and, to be honest, like they belong working on street corners. Hope you can talk some sense into her some how.

[Lavitabellissima]

PMSL @ TeamEdward

[ragged]

I'd be having a right contented giggle at the men in the family who can't figure out where to put their eyes.

Are there any older persons (I mean 70+) in the family who find it offensive? That's my only thought, if she's offending their sensibilities... well, she shouldn't. She should have more respect.

Mind, my mother would have been 70 this year and wouldn't have batted an eye at how OP's DD dresses (instead would possibly lament publicly that she herself didn't have a body like that anymore).

[mrsdennisleary]

"She has a boyfriend now for quite a while but continues to dress in the same manner"??? What do you mean? Should she be off to Laura Ashley or Per Una because she has a man??

[SpringBlossom]

I think the more suggestions you make the more she might stick with wearing things that grate... You might have to just grit your teeth and hope she finds something more modest more attractive as she gets older. I don't think it's unreasonable to ask her tone things down a bit at family events but a) she may well ignore you b) she may turn up even more brazenly dressed c) she might give you the benefit of her opinions on your dress sense.

I think generally that it's a grit your teeth situation.

[Alouiseg]

She's 20 and probably in the best shape she will ever be in.

She could quite possibly regret it if she doesn't!

[Drayford]

Oh perrrlease! Are you for real OP?

She's 20! Give a little and keep quiet! Cast your mind back to when you were 20.

[Valpollicella]

I'd be more worried about her being cold rather than anything else

[marriednotdead]

If you keep quiet she will probably grow out of it.
DDs late teens had her in a 9" (including waistband!) skirt and the dress she wore for her 18th was effectively a mini ra-ra skirt with no back and a thin scarf held over her boobs with tit tape

Fast forward 5 years; it's all been sold on ebay/replaced with skinny jeans and she dresses demurely
almost always.

It's part of self expression/growing up

[SolidGoldBrass]

SHe's probably doing it to wind you up. Which serves you right.