My DD wants to wear trainers for a wedding.

[GoMe]

My 7 year old has two beautiful dresses to chose from but she said she wants to wear them with colourful hi top trainers, the ones with sparkles and lights (leli kelly/sketchers style)....

I really don't mind and I think she will get more use out of trainers than party shoes anyway - I have to buy one or another- but I am not sure if the bride will be pleased? Should I ask her?

BTW I generally let DD make her choices tegarfing clothes with a bit of guidance for school and special occasions such as weddings. I think her idea matches her spunky perdonality but maybe not appropriate?

[Purplehonesty]

As long as she isn't a bridesmaid I would let her! The bride will have lots more on her mind and probably will hardly notice!

[TheBitterBoy]

I was at a wedding recently where two little boys were in suits and matching Converse trainers, they looked so cool and got loads of compliments. I would go for it.

[AuditAngel]

When we went away at Easter one of our suitcases didn't make it. DS wore a dinner suit with trainers which looked quite cool, DD1 wore an evening dress with trainers, didn't look as cool, but she said she was comfy!

[WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes]

I'd say it was fine, I'd rather see them in practical comfy footwear than party shoes.

[OwlCapone]

Personally, I wouldn't go for hi tops but get the low Converse type instead.

[Firsttimer7259]

V cool imo - esp hi tops w girly dress. If she's not a bridesmaid I think it's fine. If the bride was very conservative or wedding superformal I might ask but then again I might not as hi tops will get far more use than party shoes.
Wee girl at wedding few years ago was in suit w converse. Thought she looked great.

[MrsCampbellBlack]

At that age I would insist on sandals or shoes. I think its nice to dress apprriately for things like weddings and hi tops with a dress just isn't in my opinion.

But its your choice and I doubt the bride will notice or care.

[ThursdayLast]

Totally fine on a 7yo.
She'll looks funky

[GoMe]

I tried to push sandals but she is strongly attracted to the idea of dresses with hi tops. We went shoe shopping yesterday and we couldn't find any hi top that she liked so she would settle for normal trainers but definitely no sandals or party shoes.
If I buy trainers for the wedding they will be brand new, sparkly and matching the dress coulor, so I wish I could do the same I think it will be very cool.
The dress is monocoloured with some sparkle and the shoe will be mostly the same colour of the dress with more colour and bling.
The wedding is during the day and the bride knows DD well and knows she has a funny dress sense. DD isn't bridesmaid.

[LadyIsabellaWrotham]

In that case you'll be fine. It looks like you'll be picking something quirky but suitable for the outfit, rather than some sort of clumpy "I have gout and literally no other shoes fit me" effort. And I agree that a pair of eg sequinned Converse will get loads of wear over the summer, so it's a much more practical buy.

[GoMe]

I am in London. Where should I go shoe shopping and will have lots of options? I mostly shop online but with DD feet is always best to try on first.

[Moleyjay]

At our leavers disco one girl had white converse with sequin toes and laces that coordinated with the dress colour. Thought it looked great!

[LadyIsabellaWrotham]

If you want cheap and sparkly that fits a 7 year olds taste then a big Debenhams is worth a try. Or Skechers - I think they have a store in Convent Garden?

[chezbot]

Sports Direct has a few of the skechers twinkletoes hi tops at the mo.

[Hoolit]

Sounds great, your daughter sounds like mine at a wedding last year but mine was a bridesmaid!
Luckily bride was my dsis and she bought my dd a pair of gold sparkly converse for after the church bit, dd wasover the moon and she looked fab
Try monsoon or accessorize.

[NigellasDealer]

aww she will look really cute

[WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes]

Yes, I think the fact that they are new and sparkly will counteract the casual style, and at 7 there is no need for party shoes or sandals. My DD had proper bridesmaid shoes last year aged 7, they never got worn again, I think sparkly converse would have been lived in till they were outgrown. She's never had party shoes or sandals apart from those.

[Shockers]

DS (13) wore a Ted Baker suit with converse to a wedding last year and looked great.

I'm not keen on children dressed like mini adults. Let them be comfortable!

[LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett]

It might just be me, but I find converse really hard to break in so I would probably avoid them for a long day at a wedding. But otherwise I think she'll look fab!

[Princesselsaanna]

That's the look here at the moment, nobody wears smart shoes. All the girls, from teeny tiny to about 16 wear prom dresses or party dresses with high tops or converse, usually with co-ordinating ribbons as laces and sometimes Swarovski like sparkles on the toes, looks really fab.

[crazykat]

IMO there's nothing worse than seeing young kids forced to wear clothes/shoes for an occasion, fair enough if they want to wear pretty shoes or sandals, but forcing them
Is a recipe for grumpy kids. It's better that they like what they're wearing and are comfortable within reason.

Ripped/stained/beat up playing out clothes would be taking it too far. But a nice dress with nice trainers/high tops which go with it is fine on a 7 year old. My 5yo and 2yo boys had new shirts, jeans and Spider-Man trainers for a friends wedding and only got positive comments, my 6yo and 4yo DDs looked like they were going to a ball in their dresses and party shoes but they're very girly anyway and would dress like this every day if they could.

Yes kids need to learn that sometimes an occasion means that they need to wear things that they don't normally like wearing but under 10yo aren't usually expected to be in formal dresses/suits unless they're in the wedding party. Smart clothes yes but so long as the outfit matches and is smart it'll be fine.

[daftbesom]

Bless - she's seven, I wouldn't dream of asking the bride to OK the choice of shoe.

Although no doubt we will shortly be seeing an AIBU along the lines of "... to insist on personally vetting my wedding guests' choice of outfits beforehand?"

Have a great time!

[GoMe]

All sorted.
Found a nice pair of party shoes from Zara that goes perfectly with the dress and paid only a fiver. Even Dd changed her mind, lol

[Snog]

As long as she isn't a bridesmaid I think trainers are fine if she has her heart set on wearing them!