Dithering about Botox. Cancelled twice. Help me make my mind up!!

(86 Posts)
Smugsmuggler Thu 10-Oct-13 17:06:42

Right, so at 39 my 11s are starting to be quite evident. Not deep but present when my face is relaxed. And I'd like to age "naturally" (i.e. never look like I have had anything done), but much more slowly than I am doing. Some of it that I have finally lot weight, sorted out my skin, got my colours done, and I would just like to look my absolute best now...

So I keep booking Botox, and I keep chickening out..
1. Will I look obviously Botoxed?
2. Will it feel funny when I try and frown?
3. Am I starting too early?
4. Is it worth the money?
5. Is it morally and ethically defensible?<just a small question>
6. Will my husband notice?

I have asked few of these questions on here a few years ago when it was just a distant pipe dream, but I'm going round in circles now....

SundaySimmons Fri 11-Oct-13 14:29:18

Rules, this is what she looked like before Botox

img.thesun.co.uk/aidemitlum/archive/00769/SNN3103NH-280_769320a.jpg

Rules Fri 11-Oct-13 14:30:50

ha ha !!!ha ha ha ha....!!! Sunday that made me laugh in a good way.

AlfalfaMum Fri 11-Oct-13 14:35:47

I must admit to feeling a tiny bit judgemental about it (not a trait I admire in myself).
I get the occasional facial and like in expensive products, but I feel uncomfortable with the idea of doing something risky for vanity. Whether it's having major/minor operations or being injected with something, there's always a tiny risk that something could go wrong.

How much is it? Noddy, do you pay less for half a vial?

AlfalfaMum Fri 11-Oct-13 14:38:37

Not sure where that random 'in' came from, I like expensive products smile

noddyholder Fri 11-Oct-13 14:50:46

That picture is after about 4 months so almost worn off but not quite.Think the cat one on my profile is without

noddyholder Fri 11-Oct-13 14:53:08

I pay 220 no reduction for less but can have a top up after a few weeks if I feel its not enough but I never have so far. I found after about the 3rd time I could go longer between

Flo56 Fri 11-Oct-13 15:25:19

I agree it isn't always easy to spot but neither are crows feet and number 11s, honestly they'e not! Why spend a fortune zapping something that nobody but you even notices?

And grin at the idea that being anti Botox means being anti vanity. I must be one of the vainest people I know - I just don't see the point of pretending to be young when I'm not. When did 'looking good' become synonymous with 'looking young'?

Noddy, you look great and, with those cheekbones, I bet you will still look great when you're older!

noddyholder Fri 11-Oct-13 16:18:34

I don't care about young FWIW I don't think it makes anyone look younger just less haggard.

Zoe456 Fri 11-Oct-13 16:33:32

It's looking cross and bad tempered that I don't like. I did like the result, I thought it made me look calmer and happier. Never really thought it would make me look younger.

Rules Fri 11-Oct-13 16:34:38

A fringe is an excellent anti ager if you can wear it. To me though, women with lines that crinkle when they laugh and smile is so lovely to see. It shows that they have smiled a lot through out there life and are totally happy with themselves. That is what lines mean to me.

Rules Fri 11-Oct-13 16:35:34

"their"

noddyholder Fri 11-Oct-13 16:36:53

Before I was about 45 I thought that way too! I still like crows feet but not deep furrows!

BleedinEck Fri 11-Oct-13 16:41:59

A friend of mine recently hosted a Botox party & although I didn't know the guest list I instantly clocked 2 attendees at the school gates (1 just looked too rigid & the other was quite a dramatic frown reduction) but even after a few weeks of seeing them everyday would never have guessed the remaining 3 had had anything done. I wouldn't do it but then I'm not particularly vein or bothered by ageing.

Rules Fri 11-Oct-13 16:44:16

Im 52 now but without vanity but with a lot of pride, people are genuinely shocked when they know my real age. They think I am in my mid thirties. Is it luck, the food I have eaten throughout life, my attitude or genetics??? I think maybe a little of all. O and im Australian so have enjoyed the sun. My skin is lovely and glows and no sign of leather at all. The benefits of sun on the body are now being realised and the effects of years of keeping out of the sun and blocking the rays with potentially deadly chemicals is causing a lot of problems. The sun shouldn't be abused but rather than causing problems in everyone it can help to prevent a lot of illnesses.

Rules Fri 11-Oct-13 16:46:51

noddy as I said before, you look lovely and I think my opinion wouldn't change even if you never had botox. Maybe you have a happy young outlook on life and this is reflected in your face. Whats the old saying about when your older.... you get the face you deserve....ha ha.....or something like that.

martinedwards Fri 11-Oct-13 16:58:04

heard recently that it is the vitality and movement in a face that makes it attractive.......

therefore, botox may reduce lines, but it MAY also reduce what others find attractive.

just sayin!

handcream Fri 11-Oct-13 16:58:26

So I keep booking Botox, and I keep chickening out..
1. Will I look obviously Botoxed? No, not if its done properly
2. Will it feel funny when I try and frown? No, I never have!
3. Am I starting too early? A bit but wrinkles come to some earlier than others!
4. Is it worth the money?Yes, it blooming works. Unlike some very expensive face creams (circa £80!)
5. Is it morally and ethically defensible?<just a small question>Depends on your own personal views....
6. Will my husband notice? Mine didnt. I have a fringe though so perhaps less obvious

PM me if you are in the SE. I go to someone who is well known to the ladies at Mumsnet who do have this done! She is really really good.

I have to say that when people know I have had it done they say 'well, you dont need it'. Well, that's because it's in there already!!!

hellymelly Fri 11-Oct-13 18:21:10

Noddy you are very beautiful, but yes, you do look as though you have had botox. Something about the set of your brows and the width between them looks botox-y. (I did used to work with faces though, so maybe I focus differently to the average)

noddyholder Fri 11-Oct-13 18:32:40

But that is a pic without! After about 4 months and half a dose I would think it has practically worn off. You are the 1st person who has ever said it though you have worked with it so may see something else. The space between my brows is untouched though.

noddyholder Fri 11-Oct-13 18:41:11

As you know about it can you tell me what the difference is between my face on my profile pic with turban and cat one absolutely no botox at all and the one I posted so that I can get him to do it different next time maybe Thanks

binger Fri 11-Oct-13 18:43:07

I've had it once before and I'm getting it again in a couple of weeks. I'm also getting fillers in my nose to lip lines. I'm 43 and not very wrinkly but I want to keep it that way, hence the work. I didn't think mine was ott, just looked a bit fresher however I'm getting eyebrows done this time too so hopefully won't have the startled look.

Go for it, you won't regret it - it doesn't hurt btw, just in case you wondered.

feelinlucky Fri 11-Oct-13 18:49:55

Noddy, you look gorgeous, just go for it. If you don't like it then don't have it again. I promise you won't regret it smile

noddyholder Fri 11-Oct-13 18:54:09

I have had it! I like it x

noddyholder Fri 11-Oct-13 18:54:36

Thanks for the compliment too much appreciated too have been ill all week and look a mess smile

feelinlucky Fri 11-Oct-13 18:56:58

Yes sorry, just realised you're not the original op smile

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