A dress to wear to court

(78 Posts)
ProtectiveMother Thu 10-Oct-13 07:41:10

A long sleeved, knee length dress please ladies to go with navy low heeled court shoes. I am quite tall so if you know of specific tall brands, even better!

Not too expensive. I'd like to spend £50 or under. Floral pattern ok or... plain... what colours look good with navy shoes?

I don't think it should be too fashionable as I need to look responsible iyswim. It's a family court case and I am the person who is telling the truth so it should look honourable and smart. Not too mumsy though as I hate that look and want to wear it again.

A shirt dress possibly?

Thanks!!!!!! I want to feel comfortable and look my best as my future is going to be decided for me :-(

ProtectiveMother Sat 19-Oct-13 20:24:57

Also Triptrap you don't know any of the facts of my case!!!

ProtectiveMother Sat 19-Oct-13 20:23:50

You will note that I was talking precisely about the children's best interests trip trap.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge Sat 19-Oct-13 14:26:11

No they are not!

The system is not sexist either.

And what you should be focussing on is rights of THE CHILD!Too many parents forget that,all they think about is themselves when they want to avoid contact etc.Like it or not,parents have rights but,most importantly,kids have a right to have a family and see that family.

babybarrister Sat 19-Oct-13 14:11:46

No i don't actually!

ProtectiveMother Sat 19-Oct-13 11:22:38

Don't you agree though Babybarrister that the courts are all about the rights of the father at the moment? Despite the fact that in most cases it is the mother who is the responsible one with the children's best interests at heart?

babybarrister Fri 18-Oct-13 20:47:49

www.judiciary.gov.uk/Resources/JCO/Documents/Stats/courts-diversity-stats-2012-13.xls

In family cases in County Courts there are about one third women !

LightasaBreeze Fri 18-Oct-13 16:28:15

I also think over £60 is a lot for polyester. The thing is when you're tall its so hard to get a dress that sits just right. Some of the Boden ones are lovely, usually the more expensive ones. All the good stuff on Boden seems to sell out really quickly though as people used the discount codes and buy them then.

Likewise there are some on Next Tall but I think anything nice is probably snapped up by now.

Might be easier to look for a skirt and a nice top rather than buying a dress which you might not wear again if you're not really loving it.

I'm not really sure what I would wear to Court, probably something like office wear or if I had an interview.

ProtectiveMother Fri 18-Oct-13 14:57:53

Thanks by the way superior cat. There are a lot of cats about! ;-)

ProtectiveMother Fri 18-Oct-13 14:56:41

Anyway just because there are a few minority female judges doesn't mean the system isn't sexist. But I won't dwell on this as 1. It's infuriating and 2. It's for another thread

ProtectiveMother Fri 18-Oct-13 14:52:29

Well I live in a more sexist part of the UK than most! (Prefer not to say where!)

babybarrister Fri 18-Oct-13 14:32:42

I agree what you wear influences others and also your own feelings in relation to self confidence. I do not agree the court system is sexist.there are loads of female family judges for a start ....

SuperiorCat Fri 18-Oct-13 12:38:12

OP I can completely see why you want to dress, and I disagree PervCat - how you dress does affect how others perceive you.

Good luck OP hope all goes well.

ProtectiveMother Fri 18-Oct-13 10:41:39

Hi Perv cat. It makes a huge difference to me what I'm wearing. Because of my height, it's hard to find something that's a good fit and I want to be wearing something that's a good fit and looks smart and respectable. I think the court system is really sexist and I'm bottom of the social heap at the moment despite my excellent education because of a long, abusive relationship. If I come across as professional in my demeanour and in my dress, that will help the judge to respect me and take what I say seriously. This means probably a more favourable outcome for me and my children so kind of disagree with ya! :-)

PervCat Fri 18-Oct-13 02:12:49

You know it makes no difference what you wear, don't you ?

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 23:55:04

Re: the shift dress, I was looking on the LTS website alright but the zips on the front I wouldn't be able to take unfortunately...

There's a lovely purple one on the Boden site... Its kind of more of an 'evening' dress because its quite fitted you know? i wonder if I could wear it with a blazer though...?

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 23:51:05

Thanks so much Breeze. I'd consider the berry one but (and I'm going to sound really fussy here) it's 60 or so quid for a polyester dress. I find polyester looks cheap...

There's one on Boden I like that's COMPLETELY sold out...

I've been looking all night now but so far no joy!

LightasaBreeze Thu 17-Oct-13 23:10:12

Longtallsally have a few dresses

Black shift

Berry dress

Dark red dress

It looks like returns are free now according to website, always useful if you order a couple or so to try on

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 21:03:21

I'm only actually considering Tall clothing online now so Debenhams is maybe out.

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 21:02:22

Laska thanks but the Phase 8 dress is too light & summery and the Jaegar dress is impressive but a bit too bowy and most importantly, it won't fit me in the arms.

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 20:56:13

I'm 5'11 and a half ;-)

I think an M&S size 12 is ok on me except obv too short. Tried on a jumper dress in Next and needed a 14!

Laska42 Thu 17-Oct-13 20:03:46

phase eight with that blue jacket above from Debenhams?

Laska42 Thu 17-Oct-13 19:45:47

a navy jacket so cheap
or
navy dress
matching jacket
Debenhams code for an extra 10% is VF34 ends this weekend

Laska42 Thu 17-Oct-13 19:36:29

this is too expensive but if its really, really vital you look utterly smart and together , it may be worth the extra ££s

LightasaBreeze Thu 17-Oct-13 19:25:44

Boden is probably similar to M&S and Next sizes. I usually order a couple of sizes as I am in between 12 and 14. I would see if there's a voucher code for free delivery and returns and hopefully money off and order both sizes if you haven't got much time. Also worth reading all the reviews to get an idea. Also it has the quite useful garment measurements.

I am 5' 10 and find their long just right so depends how tall you are.

Code A499 looks like it give a discount depending on how many items you get and free delivery but not free returns

babybarrister Thu 17-Oct-13 19:08:41

It is only the barristers who have to wear black or grey

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