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Honestly - am I being unfair to ds3 by dressing him in this?

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MandragoraWurzelstock · 18/04/2013 19:29

I found what I think is a super little matinee coat. It's red, very sweet and lovely to use. It's like //this - well quite similar, not lacy or picot or anything.

Today I put ds3 in it (he is 3 months) and TWO people thought he was a girl! He was also wearing plain white tights I should add, so maybe it was that?

Is it wrong to dress baby boys like this? I mean maybe he looked a bit Victorian but I didn't think he'd be mistaken for a girl. he looks like a potato anyway

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MandragoraWurzelstock · 18/04/2013 19:30
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BackforGood · 18/04/2013 19:37

erm...probably not what you want to hear, but if I saw a baby in white tights and that coat, I think I'd assume they were a girl too. Sorry!

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Ujjayi · 18/04/2013 19:39

Not so sure about coupling it with tights but that jacket is adorable. Worn over a babygro I wouldn't think anything of it or even some lovely soft chambray dungarees.

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DefiniteMaybe · 18/04/2013 19:39

I'd also assume girl.

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Makinglists · 18/04/2013 19:39

Its lovely -he is never go to know whether someone thought he was a girl. My mum dressed me in blue as a baby (late 60's early 70's) on the basis she liked blue she used to get remarks about what a lovely boy I was!! Haven't been scarred for life!!. For what its worth I think its lovely.

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purpleroses · 18/04/2013 19:40

At 3 months he's not going to care if people think he's a girl. If it doesn't bother you, then dress him how you like! Enjoy - in a few years, he won't be having any of it, but right now he's yours to dress as you like :)

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pizzaqueen · 18/04/2013 19:42

You can dress your DS in whatever you want. It doesn't shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks.

However, if I saw a baby wearing that coat and tights I would definately think it was a girl.

But who actually cares, why should we gender a 3 month old baby. If you like the coat then put him in it, at 3 months does it actually matter whether complete strangers think he is a boy or girl.

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BeanoGrigio · 18/04/2013 19:43

Well if I saw a baby dressed in that coat and white tights, I would assume it was a girl, but I'd only do this so that I could say 'isn't she lovely?', 'how old is she?' or something similar. I don't think it's a bad thing or clothes that shouldn't be on a boy or anything, just down to lack of a non-gender specific third person singular pronoun.

Anyway ime babies always get mistaken for boys when they're girls and vice versa, even when they're wearing clothes that traditionally scream one gender or another.

They all look like they could be both so I think people just look to clothes as a clue, instead of saying 'is it a boy or a girl?' (which would probably cause offence to someone somewhere anyway).

I wouldn't worry about it.

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MandragoraWurzelstock · 18/04/2013 19:44

Thankyou, I can totally see how a girl would look great in it too - but it's not a frock, just a little knitted coat. And I want him to be able to wear this because it's so blooming easy to put on! Unlike the myriad 'boy' coats and cardis I've had from Boots and mothercare, which have all got tiny teeny arms and loads of buttons and they ride up as they're too short.

The tights too, I really like - they wear them in Germany a lot I think, on baby boys, and toddler boys and they are just so useful.

It's a bit like putting a girl in trousers |I suppose, just the convenience of it! Smile

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louisianablue2000 · 18/04/2013 19:44

Iwouldn't worry about it. My girls always had people assume they are boys because they weren't dressed head to toe pink I still buy 'boys' jeans because I hate the tight cut of 'girls' jeans. DS is 7 months and his grandmother is continually saying how masculine he is despite me putting him in pink sleepsuits (because I refuse to but new ones for 3 months) and sleeping bags and hand-me-down T-shirts that are rather feminine.

Call me radical but I don't think wearing a red coat as a 3 month old is going to affect your son.

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EleanorFarjeon · 18/04/2013 19:44

Whilst I hate to see babies in jeans, jackets & trainers, I would also think he'd look a bit of a nancy in a red matinee coat & white tights!

Soz

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ZolaBuddleia · 18/04/2013 19:44

The tights and the fact that the coat is the same shape as an adult woman would wear would make me think he was a girl.

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ZolaBuddleia · 18/04/2013 19:45

Aren't trousers easier to put on than tights though?

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louisianablue2000 · 18/04/2013 19:46

Oh, as far as the tights issue goes, you can get some fabulous 'boys' tights which are far better than socks for babies.

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MandragoraWurzelstock · 18/04/2013 19:46

I think I was worried that maybe I am deluded, and part of my brain is trying to MAKE him into a girl since he is my third and last baby and they';ve all been boys!

I don't want to be weird or something

I do draw the line at pink but then he did have a purple hat when he was tiny as nowhere had any in blue/grey etc. And it did have some tiny flowers on. Blush but I was desperate at that point. It doesn't fit any more.

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MandragoraWurzelstock · 18/04/2013 19:48

Trousers are slightly easier At the point of dressing BUT though he has plenty of trousers, I avoid them as you need socks with them and the socks won't blardy stay on! I am sick of picking up fallen socks and my baby having cold feet.

So often it's tights UNDER trousers or just tights as frankly, he's a baby and doesn't care - but I still feel a bit worried that I might be, you know, breaking the rules a bit.

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LadyKinbote · 18/04/2013 19:48

It looks lovely! I wouldn't worry about it, they're only little and cute for so long...

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MandragoraWurzelstock · 18/04/2013 19:49

Louisiana - do you have a linky please?! Am running out of non pink and grly tights!

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LadyKinbote · 18/04/2013 19:49

And there are no rules with baby clothes!

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MandragoraWurzelstock · 18/04/2013 19:50

thankyou Smile

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BreasticlesNTesticles · 18/04/2013 19:52

Babygrows are the way to go imo, much easier than any "proper" clothing. Would have def thought he was a girl in that outfit but it doesn't matter to him as long as he is comfy!

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deleted203 · 18/04/2013 19:52

I don't suppose your DS cares. But it is definitely a girl's outfit, IMO.

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ReluctantlyBeingYoniMassaged · 18/04/2013 19:53

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! You cannot be serious, OP!

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landofsoapandglory · 18/04/2013 19:53

I'm not sure TBH, but if that's the sort of price people will pay I'm bringing out my knitting needles!

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Branleuse · 18/04/2013 19:54

I'd probably think girl, especially with tights but then again I'd probably just think cute outfit. it's a sweet coat

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