Mirror or camera! Who's right??

(31 Posts)
HappyGirlNow Mon 23-Jul-12 13:20:42

Ok, when I look in the mirror I'm reasonably happy, look fine.. When I look at most photos of me (apart from ones where I'm grinning like an idiot) my face looks a bit saggy ! What the hell..

I'm 39. Has anyone else noticed this? Or is it just me.. sad

So who's right, the mirror or the photo? confused

AlanMoore Sat 09-Feb-13 07:42:03

I wasnt ever 'photogenic' but pre digital I was quite pretty in photos albeit with my eyes shut or whatever. Then I thought something had happened to my face because I now look awful in pictures. But then I saw a video...and look just like I used to on film! It's bizarre. Also saw pics from a friends wedding taken on slr (?) camera and look great on them, they were just candids I was in background of.
Blame digital! I know what a pp meant about everyone else looking like they look, it's rubbish.

Rowboat Sat 09-Feb-13 07:31:17

i would love a thin mirror!grin

catladycourtney1 Sat 09-Feb-13 03:19:09

Sulawesi yes, definitely. I have a "thin" mirror and a "fat" mirror, and so does my mum smile

Sulawesi Sat 09-Feb-13 02:38:11

depends on the mirror though! I have a good mirror in my bathroom and a hideous mirror in my bedroom - I look like two different people it has to be said!

catladycourtney1 Sat 09-Feb-13 01:42:28

Oh God I hope it's the mirror! Although what you see in a mirror is backwards, so it's not going to be the same as what other people see (although faces are fairly symmetrical so not a million miles away). I can think I look really good in the mirror, then I'll see a picture of myself taken on the same day/night and look absolutely awful!

I feel exactly the same way. I look like shit in photos, my makeup looks the wrong colour, my teeth look shit, I have multiple chins and squinty eyes. I always feel I look quite nice in the mirror sad

Also though, DH is so shit at taking photos, he always manages to get me as I move, or sneeze, or laugh or <insert other unattractive pose when caught in freezeframe>

Rowboat Fri 08-Feb-13 23:19:36

i have an incredibly photogenic friend who 99% of the time looks better in photos than real life. except her wedding photos sad for some reason. Me, i generally look terrible in pictures, unless its professional. i just hope the mirror is better. I've avoided both as much as possible this week!confused

EuroShagmore Fri 08-Feb-13 22:50:45

I find photos of me awful unless I am wearing foundation (I rarely do, unless I know I am going to have a camera pointed at me). I think it is related to the way the light reflects off the skin. Or something.

HaveAGoodDay Fri 08-Feb-13 21:14:24

Which ever's right, i'm screwed.

(At least with a photo - there's Photoshop!)

AgathaF Fri 08-Feb-13 14:16:15

GK I think I would have preferred to stay deluded grin

GobblersKnob Fri 08-Feb-13 13:20:56

The camera is how you look to other people. I am in a situation where I am now filmed a lot and have to watch myself back larger than life size (considerably), it has taken me a while to make peace with how I actually look rather than my mirror image.

Of course film is more true, you can have a really bad picture taken which is then frozen so not so realistic.

Now I am used to seeing myself on screen I am far more realistic about what I look like and accept myself quite happily in photos. I think generally we are quite deluded about our image as we only look in mirrors.

AgathaF Fri 08-Feb-13 11:33:47

I hope it's the mirror too. I thought I was the only one who had pondered this grin

SadieRobertson Fri 08-Feb-13 10:30:37

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poppedoutforapintofmilk Mon 23-Jul-12 18:50:54

If it's the camera, I'm doomed. I don't even look human.

lauratheexplorer Mon 23-Jul-12 18:35:53

i have a better left side than right so i turn my chin down and to the right in photos. i still look minging but not as minging.

MsOliveOyl Mon 23-Jul-12 17:54:52

Arf at Cailin. You do have a point. But not if she gets cremated.

minceorotherwise Mon 23-Jul-12 17:53:04

I wonder about this. Like the whole mirror is not a true representation etc
Does a mirror, mirror your face IYSWIM,
Also, why do some people who don't look that great, look great in photos, and the opposite?
There must be some scientific reason why this happens, like if your face is not symmetrical then what characteristics left to right look better in a mirror or a photo ?

CailinDana Mon 23-Jul-12 17:49:16

No one except you cares one small tiny bit about whether your face is saggy or not. Your saggy face will one day be eaten by bacteria and other small creatures. You have a face that works. Enjoy it and stop bloody worrying.

RobinScherbatsky Mon 23-Jul-12 17:46:42

Great thread. Oh God please let it be the mirror- I detest myself in photos, to the extent that seeing holiday pics really takes the shine off for me, and I hate the fact that every single occasion of even the most minor importance now has to be photographed, facebooked and consigned to history. I hate pictures so much that I actually dread the idea of having to be photographed for my wedding and keeping an album of the damn things. Yet I think I look alright in the mirror and I am sure nobody have ever fancied me if I looked like my photo- and I've had my fair share grin

The only thing that concerns me is that photos of all my friends seem to me to be exactly how they look in real life....

MsOliveOyl Mon 23-Jul-12 15:04:13

I'd say mirror, as I know loads of people who look better in real life than in photos. However, my DH looks really weird in the mirror. His face looks all lopsided hmm

sinkingflameofhilarity Mon 23-Jul-12 14:54:14

I hope to god the mirror. I like to think there are some of us that just don't are a good photo (myself included, but none of my friends. Grrrr)

lauratheexplorer Mon 23-Jul-12 14:40:34

The mirror. I usually look fine in the mirror but never on camera without 50 shots to choose from. I don't have a symmetrical face at all so I just end up looking odd.

bigbuttons Mon 23-Jul-12 14:40:33

Also a photo is frozen, you never look like that in reality unless of course you stand stock still for hours on end! Your appearance is much more than your physical face. It's the expressions you make, how you hold yourself, how you move, that's what other people see after all.

Lizzylou Mon 23-Jul-12 14:36:11

Hopefully neither and I'm really Helena Christianson.

I think photos are worse than the mirror, but neither are great.

HappyGirlNow Mon 23-Jul-12 14:34:23

Lol @ greeneyes

So mostly we think the mirror is more accurate? Phew, thank goodness for that! smile

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