Sorry meant to say NOT suitable to be around their daughter

Hi, thank you very much for that. I'm an A and E nurse and have enhanced CRB so don't think she can try and say I'm suitable to be around their child although I am sure she will!! Her hypocrosy amazes me as does the level she is going to stop my OH from seeing his daughter. I have been really shocked that women like her exist and don't once put thier child first.

Hope your situation improves and your pregnancy goes well.

Sam

Hi Blue Collie

I know what i am about to say is probably not important but here goes. I take it you and your partner have been together on a long term basis - a year or possibly two. You have made a commitment to each other by living together and you are cementing your relationship with a baby. I have been through a similar situation - i have been with my wonderful fiance for 3 years and i am 18 weeks pregnant. For the past 3 years my partner has had to live a seperate life - he has only recently been "allowed" to tell his daughter i even exist.

I will give you the advice our solictor gave me - after more than a year together you have proven you are a commited couple, you have made a lovely home together. Your fear of having to leave your home is unfounded anybody making a judgement would not expect you to give up your home. The only time a court of law would prohibt your contact to his child was if you had convivtions of child neglect cruelty or a history of drink or drug abuse.

Hello and poor you

The only useful advice I can give is that your OH gets in touch with Families Need Fathers and tries to cut down on the costs by self-representing. We self represent in Family Court (on other contact issues) and it's really not that hard once you get the hang of it, and we don't pay any more money to the vultures lawyers.

You can download a lot of free advice leaflets about contact from the Children's Legal Centre which will tell you all you need to do and which forms to download from the HMRC.

Hello All, just after advice really and a rant! I met my partner after his wife threw him and did not want him back and contact with his daughter was amiciable. However, once she new about me it all changed and she moved her daughter to NI without his permission and stoppped all contact. My OH is still battling through court to gain contact at great expense that we can not afford. The latest thing however that I am rather distressed about is that his daughter was sobbing on the phone when he last spoke to her and had been crying prior to the phone call. His daughter stated that she did not want to meet her baby brother or me ever...she's 6. We find it hard to work out what kind of things her mother was saying to her daughter to get her this upset prior to my OHs phone call and not sure what to do about it or if the court will take this into account when deciding contact. It is okay for the her to have her bloke round in the house she lives in and makes her daughter stay in her bedroom while this bloke is there even if its 4pm on a school day! Yet she has done nothing but try and turn this child against me and our baby and I haven't even met her yet.
However, we can't afford for my partner to spend £300 a month visiting his daughter every month in NI and so he is asking for school holidays and to bring his daughter back to England and obviously she will have to spend time with me. I am just concerned the court will say I will have to move out when she is over as his ex appears to be doing a very good job of getting his daughter to hate me. I also don't like to think that this poor child is so distraught at the thought at ever meetin her brother or me.
Any advice would be great as I really have had enough of all this.