I met my dp almost a year ago and we fell madly in love very quickly. We have both been through some pretty horrific stuff and are both single parents with the full time responsibility of caring for our children (one each) with the biological other parent totally off the scene. He is an amazing dad to his dd (4yo) and is wonderful with my dd (2yo). I wanted - and still want - to be there for his dd as she hasn't had a mum ever and every little girl needs a mum to turn to. I have tried and tried and tried and tried and tried...I could go on...and nothing works. She is a little COW! She looks at me like filth, she completely ignores me, she acts up whenever dp and I are within 3 feet of each other, she is rude, she even lashes out at times. I have gotten to the point where I dread seeing her. Our plans of living together are on hold now because of it. I want to move forward but I feel exhausted by it all and have come to the point where I just don't like her! This makes me feel guilty which in turn makes me feel defensive and uptight when she is around. I know that she went through a hard time and that I am a potential threat (in her eyes) to her relationship with daddy. I recognise that things are changing for her which is difficult for any child. I understand that me being on edge is probably obvious to her now. The thing I don't know now is what to do about it all. I've read many of the threads and know I'm not alone but could do with some constructive feedback. If you think I'm a bad person please keep it to yourself - I already feel bad enough!
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