My MIL is a lovely woman and we get on very well, but gives a lot more attention to my DSS than to our two other children. At first I thought it was because my DD wasn't 'family' whereas DSS is. Also due to problems with DSS's mother, contact was stopped for an extended period and MIL feels very sorry for DSS and is trying to 'make up for it'.
We now have a DS between us (so biologically the same relationship to her, ie blood grandson) but she's still at it! For example, for Easter she sent a package with chocolates for all 3, but with an aeroplane kit and an expensive jumper for DSS.
This morning a HUGE package arrived for DSS for his birthday, crammed with really expensive stuff (games for his DS, clothes, all sorts) far more than she sent for either of the other two.
Does she realise she's doing it? I also have to continuously stop her 'sneaking' non-veggie sweets to DSS, whose mother is a fanatical veggie.
I have talked to DH about it, and he has had a word with his Mum - for example at Easter he told her we would be giving DSS his 'extra' treats when the others were having treats, too. But it doesn't seem to have worked.
Any ideas? I'm worried it will cause friction between the kids as they get older.
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How to deal with favouritism from the MIL?
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mmrred · 25/08/2009 16:06
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