Ok - so we are talking xmas plans already!

[terrier141]

Brief history - ex (D!)h and I split over 6 years ago - the xmas arrangments have always been that they go to his house on xmas day between 11am and 1pm to have their presents etc (xmas day also dd's bday) - these have always been his CHOSEN arrangments that have never really been convenient for me but I have accepted. Then last xmas eve I got a text off his mum to say she would collect my dc's at 9am!!!! to go to their dads - I refused this as I felt we would not be awake, opened pressies, had breakfast, dressed etc in time on xmas morning. I felt I did not want my xmas morning excitement rushed by my ex. This caused all sorts of texts going back and forth between me and ex's mother but I refused to back down. Now hes saying I ruined his xmas last year (the dc's did visit at the usual time of 11-1). Therefore he is now asking in advance for this xmas that the dc's visit at 8.30/9am!! or he doesnt want to see them till boxing day! I should add that last year he had dc's also from boxing day for a few days (a last minute demand!), which completely spoilt my family plans as we had my dsc's for that period and wanted the whole family together. Im just really fed up of my ex still trying to dictate to me what the arrangments will be! He thinks Im totally inflexible (I always agree to his last minute changes!!). He has never paid maintainence and has told me he will never work because he doesnt want to pay - yet keeps banging on about his rights as a father. Well I believe with rights comes responsibilities and he does nothing for them! Sorry for the very long rant - feel better now!