I AM A DAD OF 2 BOYS AGED 14 & 16. I ALSO HAVE A 3 YR OLD WITH MY NEW WIFE WHO I HAVE BEEN WITH FOR 6 YRS. ORIGINALLY WHEN MY FIRST WIFE(THE BOYS MOTHER)LEFT ME FOR ANOTHER MAN THE BOYS STAYED WITH HER AND CAME TO STAY WITH ME WHEN I WASNT ON SHIFT WHICH WAS OFTEN.THIS WAS 10 YEARS AGO. 2 YEARS AGO THE YOUNGEST CAME TO LIVE WITH ME AS HE HAD PROBLEMS WITH HIS MOTHER. THEN WE SHARED BOTH BOYS.THIS IS ONLY POSSIBLE AS MY WIFE DOESNT WORK FULL TIME. MY WIFE THE BOYS STEP MUM IS A WONDERFUL CARING PERSON.MY SON AND I HAD AN ARGUMENT TODAY AND HE STORMED TO HIS MOTHERS SAYING HE HATES MY WIFE AND I HAVE CHANGED.HE ALSO SAID MORE HURTFUL THINGS ABOUT MY WIFE AND ME.WHEN THERE IS A FALLING OUT LIKE THAT PROB 2 A YEAR HE ALWAYS SAYS THE SAME THING. THIS UPSET MY WIFE AND OBVIOUSLY SHE CANT UNDERSTAND WHY. THEY GET ON IT IS ONLY WHEN I HAVE A MAJOR FALLING OUT WITH MY SON THAT HE SAYS ALL THIS. MY WIFE HAS HAD ENOUGH AND IS VERY UPSET.I CAN IMAGINE MY SON IS TOO. I WANT THEM ALL TO GET ON AND FEEL COMFORTABLE IN EACH OTHERS PRESCENSE. HOW CAN I DO THIS AND START THERE RELATIONSHIP OFF. MY WIFE HAS NEVER FELT COMFORTABLE LIVING IN THIS HOUSE AS IT WAS MY MARITAL HOME,BUT WE STAYED BECAUSE OF THE BOYS.THE BOYS HAVE SEEN CHANGES IN THIS HOUSE WITH THE ARRIVAL OF MY WIFE AND THEN A NEW BABY,AND YES THEY DID LOSE A BEDROOM. I AM AT A LOSS I LOVE MY BOYS,MY WIFE AND MY BABY GIRL. HOW CAN I GET THEM ALL TO GET ALONG AND FULLY BOND. I MUST HOWEVER ADD THAT WHEN I FIRST MET MY WIFE MY EX FOUND THIS VERY DIFFICULT AND DID BAD MOUTH ME AND ( WE BELIEVE STILL DOES) MY WIFE IN FRONT OF THE BOYS AND ALSO LEFT NOTES AND BAD MESSAGES ON THE PHONE.I COULD NOT BELIEVE THIS AT THE TIME AS I HAD BEEN SEPERATED/DIVORCED FOR 4 YEARS AND SHE HAD A NEW MAN AND BABY.
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