I used to be a reguar here, but have changed my name.
This is basically the story. Dp and I have dss23 (who left home last year) dss 19, my ds 15, and dd 3. We have been together for 9 years. We live in what is really an extended 2 bed semi. Last year dss moved out. It was hell with in effect 5 adults living here...everyone is very tall. It wasn't just that, it was also stuff like cooking for 6 people when you both work full time, washing everywhere all the time, it was really difficult, and contributed to the fact that I started to suffer with anxiety and depression.
Last July dss 23 moved out, everything became much much easier. The lease has run ut on his house, and he wants to move back. Dp informed me of this last week (note, he informed me, but didn't discuss it with me) Dss 19 knew before me.
Now all the kids are very easy to live with apart from dss 23. When he lived here, I was tbh very unhappy a lot of the time. I tolerated it for dp's sake. He is very difficult to live with, because of the way he behaves. He likes the house freezing cold, and contantly turns the heating off without asking all the time. This is terrible in the winter. He regardss the shower as his own personal place, and spends 25 minutes in there when people are in a rush in the morning. It is a very noisy shower, and he wakes people up when he goes in early in the morning. Lastly he runs up and down the stairs all the time and constantly wkes dd up.
It all sounds so trivial, but it makes me really unhappy, and I am dreading it. I can't be in control of my own house.Neither of the other dss behaves like this, but he does what he wants, despite being repeatedly told not to.
Last year dp accused me of being unreasonable, when I didn't want dss gf staying here, which pushed the total number of adults in the house up to 6.
I really feel desperate to the point of wanting to leave. I just cannot live like that again. I really don't know what to do. I love dp, and don't want to go, but I can feel the thought of it all starting to make me feel crap again
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Dread older dss 23 moving back in
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orangeandlemons · 21/06/2009 09:37
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