Right a brief discription to a very long drawn out problem. Well I will try!
I moved in with my partner 4 yrs ago, he has 4 kids but at the time they didn't live with us. In time the kids mother handed them over with alsorts of excuses but she chose her boyfriend, she also threatened my partner and the main threat was ''How do u know that any of the kids are urs?'' There is one child that clearly was shown and proven they were favourite, thats the only daughter whom is now 14, When the last child who was 4 at the time was handed over, all contact stopped.
I am a mum and their mum is a terrible person whom mistreated the kids. We took her to court to arrange regular contact with the kids (at THEIR request). She told the welfare officers that she didnt want to see them
That was in 2007, the judge awarded full residency and prohibited the mother from seeing/contacting them until she proves she wants to see all 4 kids to the court.
All kids were informed of all of this.
We have have a difficult time with the daughter over the 3 yrs she has been with us. She doesn't gel with the rest of the family and even though she has her issues with what her mother has done, her loyalty still lyes with her mum.
Recently she ran away, straight to her mums family. Police were involved and her mum was warned to stay away because of the court order. We found out she did the opposite and took her out, she gave her a large amount of money and all her contact details (the details we took her to court for to try and get which she refused to hand over). She told the daughter to not tell anyone of their contact nor future contact. We claerly found out But now the daughter is making our lives a misery and wants to go live with her mum. Dad has had to accept this and has sorted a solicitor. But now she is being very calculating, abuseing us, threatening to run away if she doesn't get what she wants.
We have booked her in with a counceller as we feel she is abit messed up.
The daughter has always stolen from us, slagged us off to her mum (when in contact), relayed all our personal info to her mum. And as u can imagine dad is finding it very hard to cope. But as step mum, no one is seeing how hard for me it is, I'm trying to keep home as normal as poss but its hard as even tho I am very close to the other 3, they still take advantage because I'm limited in how I disapline them. My 2 kids visit fortnightly too, they have had a very different up bringing and the atmosphere is so thick here.
I'm so sorry for waffling on and even still there are crucial points I haven't made but I feel like dying.
DNA test have also been done and we are awaiting the results, the older 2 kids know but the younger 2 have been told a white lie, dad has Crones u see so we have told them it is to help find out if they may have a chance of it too as an adult.
Dad is beakin down too, I have to be strong for him but I need somethin too.
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Sagz · 11/06/2009 17:40
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