I have two DSD 13 and 11. They live with their mum and we have had a good relationship.DSD who is 13 send her dad a text today which basically said "Can I have pocket money as mum gets me what I need but I want money for going out with my friends and for shopping. Thanks.
I have to say DH and I were furious and I will explain.
We have had a court order to pay maintenance of £440 for both girls for years. EX wife got the equity in the house as part of the divorce. She moved to bigger house with new partner, they had a daughter have since split up and her ex pays nothing for his daughter and DH ex wife is struggling but still buys expensive wallpaper, holidays etc.
Anyway we have two kids who are 7 and 5.
DH called his daughter tonight and said he was annoyed at her text as we sat them down six months ago and explained we are tight for money, bills have all gone up, my job are making lots redundant so we cannot and will not pay more. On top of the maintenance we have contributed to a laptop for DSD, A school trip costing over £100 for our share and many more things.
Ex wife comes on phone and said well that court order was set up years ago and maybe you should be paying more.
Thing is we regularly take the girls away and ontop of maintenance we have extra food etc when we have them.
I am furious at ex wife and stepdaughter. DSD seems to think money grows on trees. Constantly tells us how much things cost ie: her new bracelet.
I feel like we are paying enough. I checked CSA website tonight which states we should be paying £380 per month. Can we go to the CSA if we have a court order?
I feel like we are paying for ex wives lifestyle and it feels like we are paying for all three of her kids when only two are our responsiblity.
Really really angry about this. I have wanted for ages Gym membership to get myself fit but could not afford or justify the money and now we are being asked to pay £30 a month to a 13 year old girls who does not even say please. HELP
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mumof2monsters · 13/05/2009 22:19
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