DSD is almost 12. My ds is 10.
I have always brought my son up to be tolerant of other people's differences and to believe in himself fully.
Anyway when we moved in here DSD started to constantly critisise him. Here is a convo from tea time for instance:
DSD: "Why do you even have your hair so long, you look like a girl"
DS: "I don't care, I like it like that"
DSD: "OMG you don't care that you look like a girl!? DAD ... ds doesn't even care that he looks like a girl!"
(DP laughs at this point )
DS: "Whatever, why does it matter to you anyway?"
DSD: "Because it's wierd! same as your clothes and everything, you're just wierd ... if you were at my school you would so get bullied"
DS: "I'd rather be bullied than be a sheep like you"
DSD then goes off in a mood ... DP decides that "enough is enough" and tells them both off. It goes quiet for a while ...
DSD: "You'll never get a girlfriend you know, acting the way you do"
DS: "Good"
DSD: "suppose that would suit you anyway, with you being a bit of a poof"
DS: "doesn't bother me"
DSD: "DAD!! DS said he doesn't mind being a poof!"
DP laughs again. I get pissed off at this point and tell her to pack it in. DP then comes in and says he thinks both should go to bed early if they can't stop arguining. DS then shouts that if she just left him alone there would be no arguments. DP tells his DD to "leave it" which implies to me that he thinks DS is the problem.
This is happening CONSTANTLY and its driving me mad. She constantly goes on about how he'll probably fail all of his GCSE's (despite being above average in everything other than PE) that he'll definately get a crap job and live in a smelly flat and never have any money and never get a girlfriend ...
Last week we had a letter sent home that DS had helped solve a big techincal problem in the new ICT suite which had even the ICT baffled ... she went in a huge mood all night and said he'd probably paid someone to send it home. And then a bit later on she said to me in a very serious tone "You know, I was thinking about that letter ... I'm not being mean or anything but I reckon the school sent it home to make you think he was good at something because he isn't that bright, like they're trying to encourage him by pretending he's actually good at something ... "
She was dead serious btw, she wasn't trying to be funny.
I'm just sick of it, DS never slags people off so why should he have to take this? DP does nothing and says its just "sibling rivalry" but I think it's more than that.
Am I being unreasonable or over-reacting?
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DSD constantly slagging off and insulting my son
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LadyInPurple · 10/05/2009 21:13
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