Hello
I've been using this forum as a source of advice and support for a while but this is the first time I've actually posted myself.
I'm driving myself mad with over-reacting to what everyone tells me is normal teenage behaviour.
I've been with dp for almost two years, we've lived together in one house for the last year, before that we went between two houses.
He has three children - 16, 18, 20 - and they're mostly lovely.
I have no children, have never had any desire to be a parent, and won't be having any children with him.
The youngest sc is the only girl and spends the most time with us - usually one or two nights a week but sometimes more - on her demand.
This is what's winding me up. She knows exactly how to wrap her father round her little finger and he finds it really hard to say no to her - which she knows.
She's never been horrible to me, she's really polite and friendly - although she won't ever stay on her own with me or spend time with me without her father there. I've got friends that have had complete horror stories with teenage girls and I've had none of that.
What I can't bear is her attitude of expecting the world to revolve around her. She's like a four year old. She takes over our tiny house when she comes round, helps herself to the computer, puts what she wants on the TV and complains if we change it, wants dropping off and picking up from all over the place, and has tantrums if she's told no. I stay out of it all - I've never disciplined her or told her what to do. I don't feel it's my place. I make her dinner and she can't even be bothered to carry her plate to the kitchen never mind offer to wash up. She leaves the spare bedroom looking like a bomb site, and messes up the bathroom, and she helps herself to all my toiletries - even though I've bought her things of her own.
DP says this is all part of family life and I'm sure he's right, and I'm just not used to it. I feel like I complain about her all the time - when I ask him, he says it feels like that too. And I don't want to because I genuinely like her.
But it's really starting to upset me and I don't know what to do.....
I've got no-one to talk about it to which is why I'm on here. I'm sorry this is so trivial compared to some of the things people say. How do I get over having this teenager inflicted on me?
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Lulallure · 21/04/2009 09:24
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