HI there Im new on mumsnet need to let off ateam as i'm in a really odd situation!!
My ex husband is quite seriously ill. I have been divorced from him for nine years and happily married now for five years.
This weekend he was taken into hospital with a bleed on the brain, and the whole family was bounced into a difficult situation. His children from his first marriage are adult, the children we had together are 16 and 14 (both boys) and the hosp he is in is a specialist hosp, 90 miles from where we all live.
My now husband and I took the boys across to see him yesterday, and he stayed outside while I took the boys in. It was incredibly difficult to see, lying there so weak and ill, the man I had once loved and trusted, no matter how much water had gone under the bridge by now.
I stayed with the boys and talked for a while, then left them with him also for a while. I felt upset and also disloyal. My relationship with him when we were married was, to say the least, difficult, perhaps bordering on the abusive. But all the same I loved him. I love my second husband in a much 'healthier' way, a way which i know will not damage me or him, and we are very happy together.
So why was I so disturbed by the sight of my ex, ill and weak, to the extent that i reached out and squeezed his hand and wished him all the best? i know what I have now is ten thousand times better, but still I did that.
so confused. and cant just leave this situation because my sons are involved.
any advice would be most welcome.
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samijen · 17/04/2009 00:21
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