Hi all... I have posted on this thread once before, and received some really valuble advice. For those of you who aren't familiar, here's a bit of backfround (I'll try and keep it short).
I have been with DP for a year. His DC's are 2&3. When we were first together I met his children on 5or 6 occasions, and we got along great. (I was just introduced as Daddy's "friend"). We got along great, but DP's ex has sinse decided that I'm allowed nothing to do with them. I haven't seen them sinse last August. 6months ago i moved 200miles away for work purposes. I am now 19 weeks pregnant myself, with my first baby, DP has moved to be with bump and I, and goes back to see his children every weekend.
We have tried negotiating with DP's ex, and at first she decided that I could se the children over this bank holiday weekend, which I was delighted with. Then she changed her mind, and said I could see them for one hour, providing it was at DP's Mum's, and that his Mum was there. We agreed to this. It wasn't ideal, but it means the world to DP, so is well worth the £40 train fares, even just for a hour. I thought it would be a step in the right direction.
NOW, she has decided that I can only see them if its at HER house wit her there. I really don't feel comfortable with this. Firstly, it was her and DP's house, and I also think that the kids would pick up on the atmosphere. If I thought she'd be reasonable I might, but she still refers to me as "The one person I hate".
I do accept that I will have to meet her, and we have asked to meet her in a neutral place, but she has basically said that if I want to see them, hat's the way it has to be. She plans to have her whole family there, and I just feel that they will all be searching for ammunition against me. It's also a lot of stress for bump & I.
I am scared that if I don't go, she'll say that I've been given the opportunity, but that I blew it. But I really really don't think it's something I can do at the moment.
Does anyone have any advice/opinions? I would be so so grateful for a bit of persective?
...Sorry, this turned out to be quite long.
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ameNbump · 06/04/2009 16:10
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