Please help me someone, I don't know what to do and I may lose my fiancee if things stay the way they are! My stepson's mom has never been in his life and I have been in his life now for almost 2 years, he is 11 years old and does not listen, dirty clothes are all over his bed and floor, he refuses to wear his pullups when he goes to bed at night and the room smells so bad of rotting urine, my son shares a room with him and is 13 and both my 15 year old daughter and my son pick up after themselves and hardly talk back to me but my fiancee's son does everything he can to disobey the rules in the house, he even took a crap in my bathtub last night and minipulated his dad into thinking it was an accident when he took a shower but my fiancee was the last one in the shower so stepson couldnt of had an accident in the shower this had to be done on purpose, we have lived together now for 15 months and I shouldnt have to still keep telling this boy to pick up after himself and the way he talks to me is unbelievable and my fiancee just believes anything his son tells him and then blames things on my kids or on me and my fiancee takes his side, I'm tired of being the bad guy, I've been patient but consistant with his son but get absolutely NO RESPECT whatsoever, when I met my fiancee and I heard the way his son talked to him I was in shock, I already forced my step daughter out of the home at age 18 because she was using heroin in the next bedroom when she babysat our kids one night and because she didnt want to follow the rules as well as I kicked my own 18 year old out because she would not take care of her baby, I know that sounds harsh but I couldnt deal with it but with the 11 year old, I've been loving, caring, understanding, patient and consistent but nothing helps, I even found a bitten apple in his draw and an opened jar of peanut butter with a spoon in it under his bed along with all his dirty clothes that are under his bed and on his bed, he sleeps in his bed filled with dirty clothes and saturated with urine and refuses to wear his pullup and the room smells so very bad, and this morning he couldnt find a hoody to wear to school because all his dirty clothes are in his bed and I told him to grab his coat and get to the bus and I asked him what his problem was and he screamed at me and said "whats your problem" and then he missed the bus, my kids were already on the bus and I had to drive him to school, but when I tell my fiancee things that are going on his son minipulates him and brings up something one of my kids did months ago and then my kids get yelled at and then he fights with me, I don't know what to do, we are getting married on May 23 and it seems to be getting worse, someone please help me!!!
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LenaAngel · 26/03/2009 16:52
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