That's what I told DP this morning.
Don't get me wrong, I absolutly adore my DSCs. Maybe the problem is I love them too much (is a SM even allowed to love her DSCs?).
I just feel guilty all the time and I'm not even sure why. DP had been separated from his ex for several years before I met him so everyone knows I had nothing to do with that. But every so often a comment is made which makes me think that my DScs believe that the only thing keeping their mum and dad from getting back together is me. They talk of how wonderful it was when their parents were together, which DSS won't remember and DSD2 probably would remember very little of.
I feel guilty that my happiness, my family (again if I'm allowed to call them that) has come out of their unhappiness.
Last night DSD2 (10), usually such a happy, light hearted girl explained to DP why shs's been so unhappy recently. The reason of course is that she finds it really difficult that her family is 'broken-up'. She said that she had a dream a while ago that DP and his ex were still together and it was just them along with DSS and DSD1. And when she woke up she couldn't stop crying because she realised that it would never be like that again - heartbreaking.
Does/ has anyone else felt like this. Do you ever get over it?
Also, DP and I have always made quite a big deal out of the fact that we are a family and they have another family with their mother. We did this to try to make them feel at home and welcome here (we've been having fairly inconsistent contact, down to their mother). Do you think this would upset and confuse them more? Obviously to them family is their mum and dad but they just happen to be living apart.
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If I'd have known it would be like this I'm not sure I would have got this involved
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mummynumber2 · 18/03/2009 17:11
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