DP went to have a shower and DSS and I were just hanging out in the loungeroom. DSS is 4.
Basically as soon as DP was in the shower, DSS turns to me and whispers. Conversation goes like this:
DSS: I tell my mum that you say naughty words to me all the time.
Me: What? You told your mum that?
DSS: Yeah. I told her you always say naughty words to me.
Me: But I don't. Why did you say that?
DSS: Because.
That was pretty much it. I didn't push it any further because I didn't want him to feel uncomfortable talking to me etc. Naughty words for him is swearing.
I was absolutely blown away. The fact that he waited for DP to be gone to whisper that to me, and the fact he was smiling when he said it. And the fact that I never swear around him, let alone to him. I've never even raised my voice or anything at all to him.
The only thing I could think is that his mother is making it clear she doesn't like me/the idea of me, and DSS is playing along with his mum's idea of "Dad's girlfriend is bad." It feels extremely led, or coached.
Even though I know all these things, I was actually really hurt. It just felt like another no win situation. DP knows that it's not true, obviously, but still. Can't help thinking that so many other people would be happy to assume the worst :(
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