Dsd's mum keeps reducing contact time and I am so frustrated with dp for just letting it happen. He will never stand up for himself/DSD. It's not even like she wants to spend time with dsd herself, she just farms get out to others as long as it's not us.
Basically she contacted the CSA recently convinced that dp would have to pay more money. They have infact reduced the amount he has to pay by 25%. She is aware that at least part of the reduction is because we have dsd two nights a week. used to be a lot more before this so it's like she doesn't want to risk losing more money. Dp was quite happy paying the higher amount even when we were having more contact with dsd so its not like he is asking for contact to make a reduction if that makes any sense.
Several times during the holidays either do or myself took fri/mon off to cover childcare for my/our dc. In the past we would have had dsd the extra days too. This time round we were told no but then found out she had spent the night at a family friends house instead.
Today she has said we can only have her one night this weekend because she is staying at family friends instead
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TrinityEatRhinoShit · 29/08/2014 09:44
His mum suggested he continue with the original amount but he said no, she wanted to go to the csa so it serves her right. Mature I know 
but she annoyed him by going to the csa without mentioning it and thinking we didn't know she had been she still asked dp for the money he would usually pay but asked the csa to backdate her claim so effectively doubling up.
We can't afford to go to court for a court order, we have sought legal advice before and were told it could run into tens of thousands of pounds. Although I doubt he would bother anyway even if it were free because for the duration of the case he probably wouldn't get to see dsd at all.
It sounds like you dp is paying less to spite her, she asked to continue with the original amount and he said no! 
. Anyway, as frustrating as it is there's not much you can do as it's his battle to fight.
Ug, so often I hear about mums stopping contact due to not getting along. My DH is lucky in that sense, DH and his ex have had fallings out but she's never stopped the kids seeing their dad. It only hurts them in the long run 
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