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Cheeky DSS!

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SeaSaltMill · 26/08/2014 14:41

DSS is 14. He spends less time with us now he has a group of friends and 'hangs about' with them most of the time. Even when he does stay with us he leaves early / comes later. He has started going to a local club where they have under 18 nights. DSD is 11 and will happily spend the entire weekend, but also has times where she would rather stay home. DH is fairly relaxed about it all, we just go with the flow. (I'm less relaxed, I don't like not being able to make plans etc because we don't know what's happening with them - but to be honest, its always been like this, their mum isn't the most reliable!)

We are planning on a trip to a theme park with them next weekend and have told them they can bring a friend each. Last night, 11.15pm, DH got a text from DSS - who he'd been trying to contact the whole weekend to see if he was going to rugby saying 'Dad, can I have some money for (Name of under 18 club) and when we take a friend to (theme park) do they have to pay?'

Am I wrong to think this is pure cheek?! To text out of the blue asking for money, not even saying please?! DH isn't DSS's bio dad and usually DSS calls him by his actual name. The 'Dad' bit just showed he was only after something! Cheeky git.

DH said he was going to call him today, but I know he will just end up forgetting about it. Its not so much the request for money, if we have it, they can have it! Its the lack of contact and then the sudden text at 11pm.

I'm not annoyed as such, just think he's a cheeky little sod haha!

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purpleroses · 26/08/2014 15:16

He's a cheeky little sod! But normal enough behaviour I think. My DSD often asks for cash for places, saying her mum doesn't give her enough...

I would assume you should be paying for the friends they are bringing to the theme park - though they could maybe bring their own spending money for ice creams, etc.

I would text back saying "no, you can pay your own way to (under 18s club) but yes we'll pay for (friend) at theme park"

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SeaSaltMill · 26/08/2014 15:40

Oh yea course we're paying for the friend, it would be a bit cheeky of us to invite one and expect them to pay! haha!
TBH the only money he would need for the night out would be to get in, but his mother gives him £40 to go to the park! And he manages to spend it somehow...sigh...

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yoyo27 · 26/08/2014 16:13

So he is paying for his step son? Great to still have that relationship but yes, very cheeky!

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SeaSaltMill · 26/08/2014 16:26

Yeah he still treats him as his own. He was his only father figure from 18 months - 7/8 years and since then we have both kids, his DSS and his DD at the same time. DSS sees his real dad occasionally, but DH is pretty much the only constant. I see him as my DSS, just how it is.

It was the way he's asked that's wound us up, after ignoring missed calls all weekend, as soon as he wants money he's texting, not even saying please! He's a cheeky little bugger.