dp and I moved in together 6 months ago. into my house. which is now ours of course.
he has joint custody of his 3 children and I have full custody of my dd.
so dps children are at our home alternate weeks.
before we moved in together and had sleepovers in each others homes dps children always woke in the night and climbed into bed with us. this made me feel a little awkward tbh amd as I am aware that their mother specifically stated she doesnt want them sleeping beside me...whatever her reasons are...and I tend to agree just on the basis that my daughter very rarely got into my bed unless she was ill.
on sleepovers it got to the stage that I would sleep in spare room and dps children would all climb into his bed.
when we moved in. it took a bit of training to get them to sleep in own beds and if they woke in the night dp would go to them, settle them and come back into our bed.
we set some ground rules and one of them being no children in our bed.
this has worked up until now.
early hours of this morning I awoke to finding 2 out of 3 in our bed alongside me and dp. these kids sprawl...so I was kind of pushed out amd had a pretty bad nights sleep.
im not too happy about it tbh and feel that dp has just reverted back to old ways. am I being selfish that I dont want to share my bed with children including my own?
dp is aware that im not pleased about this and I feel I need to explain again why I feel this way
am I being silly? im not precious about 'my space' per se. its more of a consistency thing and all children are treated the same
can I ask what the arrangements are in your household when familes merge.
its worth noting that we have been together for a while and everything seems calm and settled into our family routine.
I jus don't want to have to go back to broken sleep and training (for want of a better word) the children to sleep in own beds..
I feel im rambling now. .
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NamesNick · 24/08/2014 11:09
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