DSC are 7 and 8. My DDs are 7 and 2 and have a DS due next month. DSC mum has a history of frustrating contact - she has stopped it all together several times, moved away without telling us, thinks DC should choose whether they come or not etc. My elder DD is very close to both DSC and was really upset when contact stopped last time for a whole year as exW moved and we had to find her then go through court to get contact reinstated.
Now my younger DD is becoming very much attached to my 8 yr old DSS. She adores him and he is great with her, when he's not here she mentions him constantly. ExW still randomly decides on the day of contact that one or both DC won't be coming and my DC are left really confused and upset. DH is taking her back to court for breaching the order but in a couple of years the court will take into account the DSCs wishes which may well be to stay home and see their friends instead and their mum will encourage that rather than contact.
Obviously I want all the DC to continue to get on and build relationships but I can't help worrying about the affect the uncertainty and hurt is having on my current and future children. Does anyone else have this concern? How have you resolved it?
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PeppaPug · 18/08/2014 22:57
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