Am I being unreasonable?

[LollyPop87]

This might have to be a bit quick and brief, I'm so sorry, but I would appreciate any honest advice.

I'm probably being selfish and unreasonable.

DPs son (7) is up for the whole summer holidays which is much longer than usual. We normally have him every other week on the summer holidays.

DP is working during the week so DPs mum is looking after his son.

I'm off work as I'm a teacher.

I like his son a lot and we get on well but I do find it stressful at times and crave time to myself.

My DP has asked me if I'll have him for about 4 hours tomorrow afternoon. He said I can so no and never puts any pressure on me to have him.

I feel bad because I know I should say yes, but I was looking forward to time to myself. (I will get some time in the morning but will probably do some shopping and housework)We have had a lovely weekend together but I was looking forward to some quiet time tomorrow).

I know I'm being completely unreasonable and selfish, and I will probably say yes, but am I wrong to feel this way?

Thanks for reading.

[LollyPop87]

Sorry just to add, I currently have no children myself. Also, there is no particular reason why DP wants me to look have his son for these 4 hours, it's more just so he can get his DS settled abit earlier as he is working late tomorrow, and otherwise he'd have to go to his mums to get him first.

[wheresthelight]

You have the whole holidays to yourself, why is 4 hours tomorrow such an issue?

There is nothing to say you have to but I think it would be nice for you to show willing

[LollyPop87]

You're right, I'm sorry. I'm just a bit stressed, I think I'm worried about finding the next few weeks a bit hard, and I want it to go well. I should have added, I don't have the whole holidays to myself, DP has some time off and we will do things together then, and I will have him for a few days myself too. I always make sure I do as I know it's important.

Sorry, I must sound horrible, I was just a bit stressed.

[wheresthelight]

See you didn't explain that you were having him other days!

You aren't horrible with or without the added info!! Without it 4 hours seems like it's not worth the arguement potential but with it then unless there is a really good reason then I don't see why arrangements need to change.

I do a lot of childcare for dsc's for various reasons inc their mum's dp not wanting them when his own kids aren't with him (he is rp for them).