My SD is 16 and has just announced that her dad has never been there for her and he proves this by doing everything with me and not taking them abroad on holiday. I wasn't there at the time however DP is rubbish at explaining things so I have the job tomorrow - my choice as we are all upset at her outburst, including her obviously and I feel it should be addressed.
We have been together for 8 years now, have had the children every weekend for all of this time up until a year ago when they decided to only come on Sundays as they naturally wanted to go out with friends. DP & I have had a holiday abroad together most years on our own, have always taken them away in the caravan for 2 weeks in the UK and then DP took them to Cyprus on his own one year.
I plan to tell her that it has always been important for dad and I to have holidays together because it is important time for us to build our relationship. We both work full time and I work abroad a lot, we have them every weekend & take them away on hol every year so dad and I also need some time. Also we can't afford to take them abroad every year and pay for their school trips to Germany, a brace, all the fab birthday & christmas presents, pay their mum etc and we have been saving to take them on a caribbean cruise for dad's 50th next Easter (which they know about)
I'd also like to add that I need a holiday with dad for my sanity! She ignores me sometimes as she misses dad and wants his love and attention, which is understandabe but I don't want to go away with someone who ignores me cos she resents me spending time with dad.
But maybe this is going too far.
What do you think? advice PLEASE
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