Hi All,
This is my first post to Mumsnet, and apologies if I do anything wrong but just wanted to get some neutral feedback on an issue I am currently experiencing.
Bit of background- I have a son (10) from a previous relationship. He was only 6 weeks old when I discovered that his father was cheating on us. There was also an issue of domestic violence and so I decided to pack up and leave.
We were on our own until he was 4 years old until I met my now husband, and we now have a daughter (4)
Husband's father dies a year or so prior to us meeting and so he only has his mother and brother. Generally I have gotten on well with my mother in law. We did have a bit of a fall out around a year after i met my husband, this was involving my son (from previous relationship) She claimed that he was a horrible little boy! Well, I was disgusted and ceased contact with her for around a year. Meaning all of us ceased contact with her. However, eventually, we thought we should bury the hatchet as life is too short.
So, that was approx 4 years ago now and she had appeared to be making a real effort with my son ( and obviously our daughter aswell) and our relationship was great. I even got her a job at my company so we were seeing each other 2 days a week at work. So, based on this great relationship, we decided to book a holiday for all of us (our family of 4, together with my mother in law and my best friend) Off to Spain we all went.
On the last day of the holiday, Mother In Law and my husband and both the kids said they would head out to get supplies from the shop. When they returned 10 mins or so later, my son looked all upset. I asked him what had happened to which he told me that he had been told "not to tell mum"....I pushed and pushed and he would not tell me, and then Mother In Law said that she had had a go at him in the car for "talking to her son like shit" ( as in my husband) I explained that it is difficult between the two of them sometimes (which it is) due to the fact that my son is not his! With this she said "Thank God he isn't one of ours" Well, I was horrified! This was all in front of his face and my 4 year old daughters face! She fired out all the insults like my husband is not happy etc etc and a tirade of abuse about me (all in front of my kids)
Luckily, it was the last day, so I only had to put up with her for a few more hours, but she totally ignored me and my son from that point onwards! When we arrived home, she tried to get my husband to leave us!
A month later, we still have not spoken, only last night I have discovered that she has turned my son's step cousin totally against him. (age 11, and her natural grandson) He is devastated as they are best friends!
So, what do i do? What are people's thoughts on this? xx
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raydonovanfan · 23/07/2014 13:12
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