Firstly I have to apologise because im new to this, and after much debate ive decided to ask for some advice as I know no one in my situation!
So im with my boyfriend who ive been with for about 9 months, he's 26 so a few years older than me (19) ever since we started talking I had known he had a daughter and I was fine with it, he had her at 21 with his ex and they do not get on at all despite being together for 4 years they split up when he was 22 (I think).
Anyway, I met his daughter for the first time after we'd been together for about 3-4 months and everything was fine.. he sees her twice a week so I normally see her once so he has some time alone with her.
All of a sudden I started getting feeelings of jealousy of their relationship which I tried to ignore, all I think is, I shouldn't be going through this at 19 even though me and his daughter get on well, I get angry at him for already having a child?!? I wish (as bad as this sounds) that it was just us two and I get upset that it wont be his first baby if we chose to have one. I won't be able to give him that experience of a first child and not knowing what to do together! I dont know if this is what I want at 19! Being a step mum to a four year old is hard.. I feel like his parents wouldnt love our children aas much as they love her. I just need to advise, I love my boyfriend and ive never felt so happy in a relationship but everytime I think about being a step mum I get so upset. .
Thank you in anticipation :) xx
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miahend95 · 19/07/2014 12:31
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