If you read the support thread brdgrl started you will know that I lost it at the weekend and had a go at dss about him treating me like shit on his shoe, refusing to speak to me or even acknowledge I exist and making me feel unwelcome in my own home. Dp had already told him it's unacceptable and his attitude needs to change and fast. It was discussed about whether he is ever made to feel unwanted/unwelcome here and whether I have ever been horrid to him etc and he agrees that I haven't done anything wrong but either can't or won't say why he treats me like this. He doesn't treat his mum's dp this way or anyone else and I really don't get it. Normally he is fine when dp isn't around so have always put it down to him being clingy to dp but it's starting to happen more and more when dp isn't here. His behaviour and attitude is really starting to make me dislike having to be here when he is here but I know dp and dsd would be devastated if I wasn't.
Well contact day yesterday and surprise surprise no change and dss refused to speak to me again. Ignoring me for 5 minutes when I asked him to get in the car and then refusing to even acknowledge me when instead him what was up. So I told him I was sick of his attitude and he was to go straight to his room and stay there when we got home. Told dp when we got back who agreed and left dss to stew. He then went up to talk to dss and was very strict with him over his disgusting attitude and that both of us goes out of our way to do nice things for him and it just gets thrown back in our faces.
He isn't allowed his computer here or ds as he lives on it at dms and we encourage a far more active lifestyle, parks, walking dog, cycling etc. So we have very little we can remove as punishment for him to earn back. He had asked if he could have a friend to sleep over in the holidays for his birthday - the date discussed was a night dp was working so dp said he would have to discuss it with me as it would be me who would have to do everything. I have said that after the way he has treated me I am jot prepared to supervise this sleepover as he doesn't deserve to be rewarded and quite frankly I am sick to death of being treated like shit by dss.
Nothing has been said to friend so I know cancelling it won't upset him but it has upset dss but I refuse to back down. I know ibam being a cow but right now we need to make him see that he has consequences to deal with when he misbehaves as he gets away with everything at dms house.
Anyone else just want to run and hide?? I have told dp this morning that I refuse to make any effort with him whatsoever until his attitude to me changes.
I want to curl up and cry
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wheresthelight · 17/07/2014 09:43
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