For once I am posting from the other side of the fence as this isn't about my DSC but about my children's stepmum.
They used to like her and get on well but for the last few months they have been coming home complaining about her. They feel that she resents them, they never have time with their Dad without her, she makes sly digs at them, they don't like her dog, she smokes all the time, ignores them, etc etc.
Usually I tell them to speak to their Dad about it and leave it to them. A few months ago DS2 told me that she drove them somewhere and when he couldn't find the bit for the seatbelt she told him not to bother as it was just a short journey. I did text my ex about this (nicely) as to me that is a safety issue and I won't have them put at risk.
This weekend DS2 came home upset because she had made a joke about him being fat (he is a little chubby and is quite sensitive about it). When she saw he was upset she laughed and told him to man up and that he''d have to get used to being teased when he went up to secondary school . Apparently my ex didnt' stick up for him.
So do I follow my natural urge to phone him and give him a mouthful or do I keep quiet? How much do I let her get away with before I say something.
A bit of the background to this is that when they met they started trying for a baby and for some reason she can't fall pg so maybe her resentment of them is because she won't have her own child with him, whereas I have, which I can understand up to a point. I used to get on OK with her but lately she's been very off with me (since the seatbelt incident) and last few times he has bought them home she has stayed in the car looking miserable.
They now say they don't want to go on holiday with them this summer which would be a shame as previously they were really looking forward to it.
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Kaluki · 07/07/2014 11:52
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