DP and I have been together for 4 years, live together, we have 2 kids each, his come to us eow and mine live with us. We have had a lot of problems over the years, he was the archetypal Disney Dad and his dc were very spoilt but things have improved in the last year or so and they are a lot better now.
My problem is the way he is with my children. He ignores them. Every now and then I comment on it and he makes an effort for a few weeks then it goes back to normal. Last night DS2 asked him a question and he completely ignored him (he said he didn't hear!) The only time he talks about them to me is to criticise them or moan about something. It's like he is not at all interested in either of them and they are in his way. He moaned last night that DS1 was still up pottering about at 10pm but he had been doing homework all that time and he wasn't doing anything wrong, he just came down for a drink and to talk about his English essay he had done. He's 14.
I do everything for his dc when they are here. I cook, wash and iron their clothes, help with their homework, basically everything I do for my own two I do for them too. DSD is 9 and won't let DP wash her hair for her so I do it (she has waist length hair and it is a nightmare to rinse out!) then I dry it and put it up for her, I love doing this for her, but it makes me so resentful that I do all this when he can barely acknowledge my kids.
This is bothering me more than the kids tbh and I have put up and shut up for a long time because he isn't actually nasty to them, just disinterested and detached. All four kids get on so well together and he is the love of my life but this one thing is really getting on top of me to the point where I feel like retaliating by ignoring his dc to see how he feels, but I just can't do that to them, it isn't their fault.
It would be such a shame to split up after we have come so far, but I feel like all the effort I have made to make us a happy family is being thrown back in my face every time he is like this with my dc.
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Kaluki · 16/10/2013 10:53
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