Things have got rather chaotic in the last few weeks between DP and DSD mum regarding money- the written agreement they had regarding financial support for DSD while she is at College broke down within days and DSD has been struggling to feed herself/wash her clothes while she's away due to lack of money.
In the course of discussion, it became apparent that DSC mums resents the fact that DP doesn't give her enough to live on. DP asked her to explain and it seems that DSC mum expects DP and myself to fund the lifestyle she wants to have, in addition to supporting the DCs. She was very clear "what about MY things?" "Why won't you give me more money?"
I admit I'm a bit gobsmacked. It certainly explains the resentment and anger she feels towards DP and myself as she feels I have cheated her out of her money - but I'm not sure if there is anything DP and I can do to allieviate that. It was a clean break divorce and she applied for maintenance via the CSA the day DP moved out rather than discuss finances in mediation - but she's been harbouring resentment for 5 years because she isn't receiving spousal maintenance.
(As an aside, she's always been the higher earner, so I'm not sure she'd even be awarded maintenance in court, would she?)
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