As you know my SS came to stay with us, things have settled somewhat as me and DH have decided to agree to disagree which doesn't make for a very comfortable homelife, the major problem now is he says things to SS (who seems to have a mental age of about a 10 year old- and I'm not just being horrible about him here, it really seems this way!) that he really shouldn't be saying, like he is a friend of equal age and mentality and not his child, this then goes round SS's brain and comes out of his mouth at all the wrong times and is quite offensive (he uses these words as if its his).
He has found things out that he shouldn't know about and has actually cause a massive family feud (within his father's family) and of course I am stuck in the middle, my DH seemingly wanting me to take his Son's side when its his Son causing all the trouble. I have learned that my Husbands family aren't quite what they seemed and I am feeling rather uncomfortable by the trouble-making intent that some of them have, like taking offense to me deleting facebook.
Its all become very childish and side-taking and I'm not wanting any part of it, I already seem like the 'bad one' purely because I am not taken in by SS, probably because I can see things from the outside whereas his Father and Nana are emotionally attached.
Whenever something comes up, like this morning DH re-telling a rather crude joke in front of SS, I was entirely embarrassed but whispered that maybe he should watch what he reiterates in front of him, but me trying to advise him just seems like I am chastising him and he takes no notice whatsoever.
One of our arguments had me telling him to stop being his 'friend' and start being a 'father' instead and maybe things would improve.
Am I right or wrong considering me and my two (older) children have to live here too.
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fubar74 · 13/10/2013 12:36
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