Hi All,
I'm new to MN so sorry if this is not the best place to put this! I'll try and make this long story short ...
Last year I left my husband and started a new relationship with a mutual friend who also left his wife ... so we all knew each other (please no judgment!) ... our exes are now together ... so all has worked out for the best!
My DH came with two gorgeous bonuses (DS 7 & DD 5), I'm very lucky that I've known them since they were born and although we have some bumps in the road on the whole it's very good between us - well me and the kids anyway! Grandparents have commented on how much the kids are benefitting from the situation - and believe me DH's parents were not amused at the situation for the first 6 months!!
Anyway, my question is really about Christmas ... Last year we had the kids on Christmas eve evening and then a few days after Christmas, and we have agreed with their mom that we will have the kids every evening from the 23rd Dec until bedtime on Christmas eve, mainly because DH is less fussed about Christmas Day than their mom & also we don't want the kids having to move around on Christmas Day and tbh I don't want the kids on Boxing Day - I hope that doesn't sound terrible but having them for the anti climax is not my idea of fun! Last year I introduced Christmas Eve Hampers (I love the idea) and we will be continuing with this. I am also 4 months pregnant and so for me I really want to introduce traditions/a routine that will work for everyone when we have a LO as well. Last year we gave the kids their presents from us for them to have on Christmas Day at their moms but we have since decided that what we buy them needs to stay at ours simply because they are getting bored here at times and nothing ever comes back.
So I'm thinking we will do Christmas Eve hampers on Christmas Eve morning - they will have new pjs, chocolate, a Christmas activity, a Christmas DVD, a present and maybe a few other bits. Then when we have them a few days after Christmas I was thinking we could do Christmas stockings (as in look what Father Christmas forgot to deliver ...) with their Christmas presents & little bits & pieces in. Am I making too much of this? The problem is we want them to open their presents with us but I don't want them to have their main present from us on Christmas Eve as mine will have to wait for Christmas morning - I realise that I have quite a while before I need to worry about what mine thinks but I don't want to start something with DSS & DSD that I then stop because it's not fair on the LO. Does that make sense? I don't want to spoil any of the kids too much but my dad used to keep a present back for Boxing Day and it was always exciting (he used to pretend every year that he hadn't done it that year and it was always exciting anticipating it!). I expect that that our one will have a stocking when they do after Christmas but they will get less as they will have their main presents on Christmas Day.
I do like to plan! :) Ideas welcome ...
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BonusMum · 11/10/2013 17:18
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