Over the years dh has in theory agreed with me that his dc (13 and 16) are relatively rude, but does little to confront them.
E.g. They seldom say hello or goodbye unless told to do so, but as dh doesn't like to appear "parental" they are simply reminded, it's never actually called rude. Ds 15 has often asked where is x, and been told they've just gone home...
Dss 13 often asks me disconcerting questions, re my job or income and such like,that are really inappropriate. Again, unless the faux pas was glaringly obvious dh would never say a thing, not even a gentle "hoho, I think that's not on," or words to that effect. Then when I react a bit taken aback/ gobsmacked it seems I'm being the difficult one as dh won't dream of setting dss right.
I also often get the feeling that dh and his ex seriously believe they and their dc are just that bit superior to ds and me (obviously money over manners) and therefore entitled to be nosey, rude etc.
Does anybody else ever see this as an entitlement issue?
( Btw, my academic credentials are higher than exw, on par with dh though...)
I really don't fancy overstepping the mark as sm, should I simply point out to ds that I often consider dsc behaviour rude and don't want him to act like that, but as dh and exw are raising them I won't butt in?
Or should I have another word with dh? When he isn't there I do mention to them to say goodbye to everyone in the house , for example, or point out something that may be considered rude. They never take offense as None is intended, but when dh is there I'd like him to say that... But he won't!
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Is this rude or am I over sensitive?
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Mueslimorning · 07/10/2013 15:29
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