Bit of insight- my stepson H was conceived by ai from a sperm donor that was meant to be anonymous upon his birth decided he wants 50/50 parenting.
He did nothing the court told him to do until H was 2 1/2 wen the court said if he doesn't do something it will be thrown out of court.
We had a report done that stated that the donor sees H as somewhat of an object and possession! This had been apparent throughout and still is!
Overall donor has been given 5 hrs wed 3hrs thursday and 8hrs every other sat!
Donor is usually pretty arkward and difficult at change over not telling us of accidents H has had until we question bruises. Hes been telling H not to tell us things and thn telling us he never said such a thing!
I have to do hand overs as my partner works and i do most of the child care, this is difficult as donor wont talk to me at all as I'm " nothing to do with his son"
My problem is i have been trying my best to be all happy and friendly to this man i cant stand because H gets very upset about going and research says it helps if they see people get on! I can no longer keep up this charade wen he continues to be an arse!
My partner is getting very upset that i keep going over and over it as i cant get him out of my head because i don't no how to fix the situation! I just want what is best for my step son but i don't know how to deal this any more! My partner isn't the one that has to sit with him at night, after contact, sick because he's fed him crap all day or peel him off to go with a man he doesn't like or trust or clean him up after he has accidents because he wont go for poos with him!
Can anyone give me sone direction how to deal with hand over? When instead of being forced to say " say bye to daddy" id like to throw the door in his face soon as ive got my boy back! Hope this mkes sense!
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Claire2390 · 05/10/2013 15:38
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