Sometimes I really do feel like I NEED to question my own sanity. I've been with DH for about 6 years. When we met he had 2 children a DS and a DD. At the time of meeting DS was 6 and DD 4. Since then we've had our own children too (DS and DD). Both DSS and DSD are lovely, well rounded individuals that both their parents should be proud of.
The only problem I have is DH's ex. She has a say in everything right down to what time DH has to phone on Christmas day. We have them EOW but when it comes to Christmas, even if it falls on DH's weekend he is not allowed to have them at Christmas so has to do with a call instead. That also goes for birthdays too.
She just can't accept DH has moved on and has other children. When ours come on the phone to wish a merry Christmas or birthday you can openly hear her in the background going 'half'. Yes, I am aware that by law that's how it's explained but I hate the term.
The kids often come here and say that mum has said some nasty comments about both their dad and their siblings and I just have to sit back. I feel like it's not my place to say anything as it's between him and her (despite mentioning ours). The latest is that we were hoping to go away for new year's. As mum had both children on Christmas DH asked if they could come along. He's been bluntly told no as she has plans with them. (plans that when we've been told the same before and ask the kids how things went turn out to be non-existent).
Now that she's said no - our holiday is on hold. DH feels guilty about going away and leaving them behind. So our children and us lose out as a result. She is constantly pulling the strings and as much as I hate to admit it, DH dances to her tune.
We've had a chat about this and he thinks I'm just being over sensitive because of the holiday. I'm not - it's been like this for years.
I really question my sanity with it all. I even told DH last week that if we ever did split I don't think I'd get involved with anyone with kids again as it's so stressful. It's only when your in the actual situation that you realise what you let yourself in for. I love DH enormously but I'm not sure all those years back I'd have got involved if I'd known what else besides the children comes along.
Now I've written it down - time to dust myself off and get on with it :)
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Am I the only one who often has to question their own sanity?
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FindingSanity · 21/08/2013 11:48
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