My dp is moving in with me and my dd7 and ds4 next month and his ds7 will be living with us half the time. He is lovely but he as an only child he is struggling with sharing the attention.
We've just been on holiday as a family of 5 and on the whole the kids got on great but there is some clear rivalry between two boys. My dd and dss get on really well and sometimes my ds gets a bit left out. My dss finds it hard that to accept that my ds as a younger child needs some concessions e.g. if we give him a chance in a game dss doesn't like it etc. He also doesn't like it when my children have cuddles or play fight with his dad. There were a couple of times I had to ask dp to have a word with him over things he had done to my ds e.g. messing up his sandcastles
Also dss has told his mum that he gets told off unfairly over my ds. This came after he was saying he hates my ds and me and dp told him that was a hurtful thing to say.
Just want to get the balance right. We can't let him get away with being unkind to my ds but equally we want to be understanding about his feeling as he gets used to being a stepbrother and not the center of attention.
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MsColour · 20/08/2013 15:51
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