hello, im a mother of 3 children, one of which is with my current partner.
when we got together he took on my other 2 children (who see their dad on a regular basis) from a previous relationship. they all get along ok but some days its like a war zone and i feel stuck in the middle.
my children are like most children with their good days and their bad days but the bad days seem 100 times worse when they start playing up for my partner. they will scream and shout at each other and whenever i intervene i am accused of taking sides. they dont respect my partner or see him as an equal in the family.
my partner struggles to find a common ground with the children and does not know how to discipline them been as though they are not his. i get protective of my children if he shouts at them even if the children are in the wrong and have done something naughty so i know im giving my children mixed messages but im not sure how to correct this.
i want my children and partner to get along but wont allow my partner to be the 'step dad' he wants to be as i get funny with him and tell him he has no right to shout at my children when he does. the children hear this and then keep on disrespecting him and think to themselves they can behave how they like.
its like a never ending circle and i have no one to blame but myself, only problem is now i dont know how to make things better.
any advice would be greatly appreciated
thank you
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Connect with other Mumsnetters here for step-parenting advice and support.
Step-parenting
discipline problems
12 replies
mollyevieem · 20/08/2013 12:47
OP posts:
needaholidaynow ·
20/08/2013 13:03
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
needaholidaynow ·
20/08/2013 13:33
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
needaholidaynow ·
20/08/2013 13:49
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
needaholidaynow ·
20/08/2013 14:12
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.