I am sorry if this is a bit muddled and a bit long but there is so many things I actually don't know where to start but here goes:
My dp and I have been together for just over 3 years, I met his dc when she was only 18 months ( about a month into our relationship) which I felt was a bit soon to be honest but it was kind of sprung on me. We barely knew each other and I'd never had experience with children at all really. He was in the middle of a rather messy separation and only got little contact with dc. Dp and I moved in quite quickly, so I had to get used to a new man, his dc every second weekend and support him through dealing with the ex w. she left him for another man and to be honest it was obvious he wasn't fussed about her but heart broken about not seeing dc as much.
I won't get into everything EXW has done as it will take forever but put it this way she has not made things easy at all. She would start and stop contact, try and make dp feel bad for not doing things for her, would text constantly about utter shit but worst of all she insisted that dsc called the new man daddy.
So as has went on things still aren't great with EXW, we live quite close to them, still only get dsc every 2nd weekend and some holidays. So dsc doesn't see our home as her home and because of problems we have had with them we haven't had much to do with dsc schooling or hobbies as that's the time she is at her mothers.
I'm finding this all so difficult. I know Ive been in dc life for over 3 yrs now but I still don't know what my role is? Dp is a great father and we take dc on holiday and she gets loads of love and attention and she is happy when she is here but that's it, all other aspects of her life we have no involvement or control over. I wish I knew how it's supposed to be. Should dp be more involved? He work full time so it's not even like we could have more contact as Dc has other siblings/ step siblings at main home too so they want to spend time with her on alternate weekends.
A big part that I've not mentioned is that dp and I have newly had a baby together and it's like dsc sees her brother at her main home more as a brother than our baby. I just don't like the way things have turned out and would like to know if there is anyone in a similar situation to me.
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Ok so I am really confused. What is my role?!
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Soundofraindrops84 · 13/08/2013 21:34
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