I understand its hard for DCs who spend time in several different homes to learn the various routines, expectations and consequences in each - and I've tried my hardest to be tolerant but......aaaaaggggghhhhhh!
DSS uses his inability to remember what happens in our home to justify everything from not being able to help with chores to needing his own breakfast made for him. When his Dad pulls him up on something, he even says that he cant remember that he shouldn't lie/snoop or whatever at our house. Nightmare!
It's not like its new; he has been coming to his Dad here every other week (except a short period when Mum withheld contact) for 5 years (hes 10) and DSS never remembers a time when his Mum and Dad lived together - but he also can't remember which cupboard he was told the breakfast cereal is in only last week!
We've tried talking to him, asking him if he forgets the rules at school, or how to play his sport at club - but he looks blank because he clearly doesn't see them as the same thing.
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ChinaCupsandSaucers · 05/08/2013 19:53
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