My exh and I have been seperated since ds 6mnths. He has reg contact and holiday time.
We are both remarried with 2 more dc each.
Since his last dc was born there has been no holiday invite for ds. I said nothing as thought perhaps his partner wanted a quiet hol and the baby is yoing etc although personally feel it is a bit unfair on ds.
We have arranged our hols and out of 7 weeks offered ex any of 5 to have ds for a hol, this was end of March. Now with just days until the hols start (Scotland) he is kicking up a stink saying when will he have ds. Ex has taken one of the weeks we are away as holiday despite knowing this was the only time ds not free.
Whilst having this conversation my ds 9 says to me 'why do we have to go on holiday its rubbish, we never do anything good'.
DS then got in car crying saying he hates me. This is the boy who yesterday when his Dad was due to pick him up sat moaning he didn't want to go.
I don't know how to deal with this so as not to cause my ds any more emotional damage. I feel so bloody hurt by him but he is only a child. Ex does so little suits himself and is a manipulative bastard but he has plenty cash to buy ds on the time they have together. Yet after 9 yrs running my ds around the place to all his various things today he hates me.
Wish i could just disappear
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nameofanother · 23/06/2013 17:27
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