Posted once in relationships about dh and got sound advice. Seems he indulges a lot in abusive behaviour towards me and, although he has asked me to point it out when it happens and he apologises, there is apparently a black hole of inappropriate actions to delve into and I'm gobsmacked at every turn.
Exw is clearly a narc and our present couple counselor sees his behaviour as a reflection of his very long (15 years) bad first marriage. She encourages dh to mend his ways with specific advice and he's taking baby steps, but steps forward at least.
Dss lives with us 50:50 and although he is very much like dh regarding interests, he likes being parented by me and our relationship is pretty easy going.
Dh once said he thinks his dd is a narc, like her mum, and I'd have to agree. However, I do believe her self absorption stems directly from her dad. Dsd does not want to increase her contact time with us at present, but I'm fearful of a time when a falling out with her mum might change this. I think I can deal with dh as long as counseling continues and changes Are visible. I know I can't take on both (his insensitivity can really depress me at times, if they can regularly enforce each other it becomes unbearable - she dislikes me openly and dh has never addressed that).
Has anybody experienced a similar situation and how did/do you contain it? Am willing to work hard at this relationship!
Thanks for any input at all.
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Feelingbetterbyfar · 14/06/2013 13:15
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